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Thursday, August 21, 2008

Savage Love Letter of the Day

posted by on August 21 at 14:59 PM

A response to something in last week’s column:

A writer asked you about her boyfriend and his interest in seeing her with other men, calling in cuckolding.

I share a similar fantasy about my wife of 10 years. We role play it all the time; it makes for great sex. I’ve chatted with a lot of guys about this fantasy, and it seems to fall into three general categories, label them how you want. 1) Men that want to be humiliated by a cheating wife, 2) Men that want to see their wives used, and 3) Men that just get turned on by watching their wife enjoy themselves with another guy.

I fall into that last category. I don’t want to be humiliated, I don’t want her used; I just get off on the fantasy of seeing her have a good time with another dude while I watch. The letter writer should probably see what about the fantasy turns on her BF, as she may not like the response. She should also have him point out men he would like to see her with. I have yet to see one, which tells me mine is best left a fantasy.

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Nice self-awareness and a thoughtful classification. What a helpful letter. Thanks, letter writer.

Many years of happiness to you and your wife.

Posted by Megan | August 21, 2008 3:16 PM

I am still amazed by this fetish.

Posted by Non | August 21, 2008 3:25 PM

I think this is one way for men to fullfill their desire to see/be with another man in sexual play, without touching them (or maybe they do touch eachother). ..just as if their porn comes to life.

Posted by J | August 21, 2008 3:34 PM

do women have this desire too? somehow i doubt it...

Posted by max solomon | August 21, 2008 4:04 PM

@3 for the insightful point. Personally, I don't get it.

Posted by Will in Seattle | August 21, 2008 4:36 PM

There may not be a lot of women wanting to see their husbands with another woman (though there certainly are some) but I think you'd really be surprised at the number of women who get turned on by the idea of seeing their husband with another man.

And this letter was really well done. I can see why Dan would chose to repost it.

Posted by Ed | August 21, 2008 4:38 PM

@4 Yes.

With all these young ladies experimenting with 3-ways, there's a lot that are discovering how much they enjoy sitting back, relaxing, and watching their man and some lovely thing go completely nasty on one another. It's like really good porn, but with characters you like, and the music's better, and you can watch from any angle you like.

Posted by C | August 21, 2008 6:18 PM

@6/7 Bingo.

Posted by Darcy | August 21, 2008 6:40 PM

Absolutely, although in my case, we can create a fourth category from those above: I like the idea of seeing my guy use someone else.

Posted by Marla | August 22, 2008 7:23 AM

@6: Hell yes. Unfortunately, it seems men who are willing to do this are even fewer than the women who want to watch.

Posted by Gloria | August 22, 2008 7:58 AM

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