Slog - Comments on Savage Love Letter of the Day http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38 I met my boyfriend on a dating site and it was suppose to only be a mistress/slave thing but when we met it turned into more. This is where the problem starts. We rarely have sex and when we do he NEVER wants "normal" sex. He has to be tied up or I'm the one fucking him (anally) and I have to do all the work. Ok, so whats the problem right? I'm a mistress and I'm the one who's suppose to do all the work. Ok, fine yeah, but sometimes, I wanna good lay and not have my partner... Copyright 2008 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:31:05 -0800 Wed, 20 Aug 2008 19:25:04 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by Angelika Best advice ever!

]]> Angelika http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109659 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109659 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:35:19 -0800 Comment by Ziggity Shit, I think that might be my girlfriend.

*calls florist*

]]> Ziggity http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109662 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109662 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:37:00 -0800 Comment by beenthere done that.

Good advice Dan! You gave the very same counsel to me once as well. Consistent too.

]]> beenthere http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109684 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109684 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:51:15 -0800 Comment by Will in Seattle Very good advice.

Stuff like this makes me glad I'm way more vanilla ...

]]> Will in Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109697 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109697 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:57:54 -0800 Comment by COMTE And she's supposed to be the D in the D/s paradigm?

Doesn't sound like she's very good at her job...

]]> COMTE http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109700 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109700 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:58:49 -0800 Comment by charm Yeah, that about sums it up. It's like she's never read your column.

]]> charm http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109721 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109721 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:07:05 -0800 Comment by blank12357 When you dump him, buy him a baseball bat. Give him something to beat himself over the head with every time he remembers that wonderful, pegging, dom girlfriend he didn't appreciate and lost.

Second thoughts, buy him two. His sorry, unpegged ass will be regretting losing you for a long, long time.

]]> blank12357 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109745 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109745 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:21:38 -0800 Comment by Will in Seattle @7 for the win.

]]> Will in Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109752 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109752 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:25:20 -0800 Comment by hillside_hoyden Any partner who responds to a respectful request for more/different sex with allegations of being a crazy nympho deserves the ol' DTMFA.

]]> hillside_hoyden http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109792 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109792 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:50:59 -0800 Comment by Kim Cheers, Mr. Savage.

Let's see how much he regrets the nympho comment when he has no one to peg him.

]]> Kim http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109817 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109817 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:07:28 -0800 Comment by Fnarf This sounds like one of the easiest DTMFAs ever.

That "topping-from-below" sounds pretty exciting, though. Sounds like a classically Seattle passive-aggressive move.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109858 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109858 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:39:28 -0800 Comment by keshmeshi @9,

Yeah. I'm thinking DTMFA is the way to go. She shouldn't give him another chance to begrudgingly give her what she wants. He lost any and all second chances when he put the problem on her.

]]> keshmeshi http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109971 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_38#c1109971 Savage Love Wed, 20 Aug 2008 19:04:12 -0800 Comment by asdf Can't you just order him to fuck you properly?

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