Slog - Comments on Savage Love Letter of the Day http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32 Written response to the first letter in this week's column... I really wish I had known about straightspouse.org years ago. My husband came out after 18 months of marriage, and by "came out," I mean cheated on me with a college kid he met on facebook the day after Christmas. Looking back at it all, I know that there were plenty of red flags along the way... from his passion for scrapbooking to the the gay porn on his computer to the fact that he never wanted to have sex with me, but we were both in complete denial. He... Copyright 2008 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:09:26 -0800 Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:04:19 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by Mr. Poe Hey, Straight Ex-Spouse,

Your new "truly wonderful" man is totally gay.

Best,

Mr. Poe

]]> Mr. Poe http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093965 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093965 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:19:07 -0800 Comment by tomasyalba "… from his passion for scrapbooking to the the gay porn on his computer"...


Awe. some. ness.

]]> tomasyalba http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093967 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093967 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:25:52 -0800 Comment by Will in Seattle Mr. Poe for the win.

Sad as it might be.

]]> Will in Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093968 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093968 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:27:31 -0800 Comment by Joe in DE Hey, I did a similar thing (got married to 'stay straight' or 'do the right thing') but that was 1984 - haven't things changed?

]]> Joe in DE http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093974 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093974 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:31:38 -0800 Comment by mattymatt Some of those red flag are flaggier than others.

]]> mattymatt http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093977 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093977 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:34:23 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO @ 4: Things have changed, but sadly there are still some retro fags out there.

I should know. I'm one of them.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093983 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093983 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:39:02 -0800 Comment by bi the bay #6: a fag? My bidar said you were one of us.


one of us one of us

/freaks.

]]> bi the bay http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093989 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093989 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:45:26 -0800 Comment by Greg Mr. Poe, you home-wrecker! Stop picking up men on Facebook!

]]> Greg http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093992 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093992 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:46:03 -0800 Comment by Chris from N.O. The college kid o Facebook turns out to be a douchebag?! Wow! Who saw that coming?

]]> Chris from N.O. http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093994 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1093994 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:47:12 -0800 Comment by Mr. Poe There is nothing more satisfying than sleeping with a man whose son is three days older than you. And then disclosing EVERYTHING to mom.

An ideal scene would be equipped with skyscrapers and sandwiches, much like that scene in Rushmore. But, you know, you don't really want to be around her when THIS news breaks.

]]> Mr. Poe http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094000 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094000 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:52:21 -0800 Comment by jameyb LOL @5... perhaps this calls for the introduction of a new word to the slog lexicon: "flaggot".

]]> jameyb http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094001 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094001 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:52:53 -0800 Comment by PopTart His passion for scrapbooking? Seriously? I mean I am the world's worst predicter of gay/not gay, but even I would've pegged Mr. Scrapbook Man as gay. That is one hobby I never want to share with my man.

]]> PopTart http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094024 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094024 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 11:14:51 -0800 Comment by DJSauvage Note to the girls, if your husband is hot-glueing a fabric frame around a cliping of his favorite male porn star, might be time to chat

]]> DJSauvage http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094041 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094041 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 11:38:27 -0800 Comment by inkweary The writer sounds like someone who knows how to deal with her problems and move on without too much baggage. Good for her.

]]> inkweary http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094049 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094049 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 11:54:37 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO @ &: yes, your bidar was right. But you know how people are in this country. Men are either "straight" or "NOT straight". In that sense, I'm in with the fags.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094060 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094060 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:00:46 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO sorry, should read: @ 7. I can't type today.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094064 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094064 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:02:22 -0800 Comment by Charm Scrapbooking isn't a red flag of being gay. It's a red flag of being a middle aged woman.

]]> Charm http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094072 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094072 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:13:16 -0800 Comment by infrequent i think people should be open and honest about such concerns as appropriate. but sometimes people who act gay are not gay. and sometimes people who act straight are not straight.

]]> infrequent http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094083 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094083 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:18:37 -0800 Comment by leek Would it be too mean to say that scrapbooking is a red flag of being lame?

]]> leek http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094086 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094086 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:18:51 -0800 Comment by PDX_Paulie I don’t know about the rest of you, but for me, the link for straigthspouse.org in this posting links back to the original column, and while I know if you click it, and get to the original column, there is the correct link to straightspouse.org there. But I’m lazy, and try to cut out as many middle-men as possible, so as a courtesy, I’m putting the link right here in the tread so that those that need the wonderful resources of that site don’t have to beat around the bush to get it. Hope y’all find it helpful: http://www.straightspouse.org

]]> PDX_Paulie http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094129 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094129 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:52:42 -0800 Comment by ali @13, yes!!

]]> ali http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094135 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/08/savage_love_letter_of_the_day_32#c1094135 Savage Love Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:04:19 -0800