Savage Love Uh…
posted by June 23 at 10:53 AMon
Easily half the mail at Savage Love now arrives with a qualifier like this….
I’d appreciate your advice. Please do not print this in your column. Thanks :)
At least the person that wrote the above had the decency to include it at the start of her letter. It’s extremely annoying to read a long, involved letter about a fucked up, complicated problem and—after having composed a little advice in my head, or having already gone and looked up some stuff online, or having already sent a query to a potential guest expert—stumble across the “don’t print this” admonition tucked away in a P.S.
Now I don’t mean to be bitchy (it comes naturally), and I frequently write folks back that ask for advice but don’t want to see their letter in print. But really, people. I’m advice columnist, not a therapist in private practice, and my email address is at the bottom of the column to solicit questions for future columns, and not because I need something to do in my nonexistent free time.
Sometimes I do feel an urge to offer advice to fuck ups with messy personal lives outside of the context of the column or the podcast. But that’s what editorial meetings are for.