"OMG THEY SHOVED CAKE IN THEIR FACES INSTEAD OF EATING IT DAINTILY!! THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS DOOOOOOOOOOOOOMED!!!"

"OMG THEY HAD A LIGHTSABER DUEL INSTEAD OF FEEDING EACH OTHER CAKE DELICATELY!!!! THE LIGHT SABERS SYMBOLIZE NOT TAKING OUT THE TRASH AND ALSO TURNING OFF THE SUPERBOWL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

That's fucking retarded, Paul. I expect better of you.

And anyway, why go halfway? Shouldn't they both be in full Jedi-gear?

Heck, why do people break glasses and do the chair dance?

ps, Would it be better if they were gays who just got married in a lightsaber duel?

If my first husband and I had shared such a great connection (rather than painstakingly choreographing a waltz to "The way you look tonight"), I wouldn't be currently living with the most awesome guy in the world, in our apartment filled with Watchmen and Batman posters.

Besides, anyone who's actually been married knows that the best you can hope for is that ALL your fights are so well choreographed.

This couple appears to have an awful lot going for them:

- trust
- a willingness to buck conventionality/tradition
- a sense of humor
- unabashed reveling in their nerdiness
- a healthy disdain for other people's opinions

Frankly, those all sound like pretty good qualities to carry into a marriage.

They are so comfortable with themselves, and that shows a lot for their maturity and strength of character. If only we could all be so open about what we liked without worrying about people judging us.

Actually, we did have a first waltz (to "Ashokan Farewell") prior to our first duel. We also fed each other cake later on, without smashing it into each other's faces. But yes, our whole wedding was entirely nerdy, from ceremony to reception to honeymoon, incorporating musical, textual, and visual references to Star Wars, Babylon 5, Finding Nemo, Final Fantasy X,The Princess Bride, Doctor Who, and more, not to mention poetry by Christina Rossetti and Kahlil Gibran and other serious readings. While it was a secular wedding, we also used elements of the traditions of both our backgrounds (mine Jewish, his Latino Catholic). We're not especially traditional people.

And you know what? Everyone had an awesome time, including our parents. Most important, we had exactly the wedding we wanted, filled with silliness, laughter, joy, love, family, and friends, and we are very, very happy together. Everything else about a wedding is merely window dressing.

Nerd love rules!

P.S. Jason Josephes, I should thank you for the comment about my age. I was actually 36 at the time of my wedding, and we'd already been together for 5 years.