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Friday, June 27, 2008

Also in This Year’s Queer Issue

posted by on June 27 at 10:45 AM

A piece by me that didn’t quite fit into the How Not to Get Married theme.

It’s accompanied by a Justin DeGarmo illustration that eerily gets my glasses right (and maybe my aspect too?) even though DeGarmo and I have never met…


…and it’s about becoming bored with the gay marriage movement.

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I haven't read it yet but what exactly are you trying to accomplish with the "not to get married" theme?

Posted by Non | June 27, 2008 10:56 AM

Looks like Harry Potter without the lightening scar. You and Ron Weasley have thing going?

Posted by DaiBando | June 27, 2008 11:00 AM

Dunno. Read it and tell us.

Posted by Dan Savage | June 27, 2008 11:01 AM

I read it on the bus yesterday and really identified with some of the feelings you described Eli.

I wonder how old I'll be when I'm finally allowed to get married? I'm 26 now. Will I ever see that day?

Here's hoping...

Posted by Justin | June 27, 2008 11:01 AM

I enjoyed it.

Posted by Mr. Poe | June 27, 2008 11:04 AM

That's exactly how I feel about the 2008 Presidential election.

No matter who "wins," we're gonna get what we deserve, right?

Posted by Original Andrew | June 27, 2008 11:06 AM

It took almost exactly 20 years between California legalizing interracial marriage and the federal Supreme Court to legalize interracial marriage nationally.

If the same pattern holds for gay marriage, then gays should be able to get married anywhere in the country some time around 2028.

So Eli and Justin, you're young enough. You'll likely still be around, and will likely be able to get legally married sometime in your lifetime.

Sadly, I'm in my late 40s. I've been with my partner for over 20 years. At this rate, if we're lucky, we'll be allowed to get married sometime after we retire. We may or may not live long enough. Statistically, we've got roughly a 50/50 chance.

I agree that the process is moving at a glacial pace, and it seems inevitable that it will take years or decades for full marriage equality nation-wide. But I'd really like to see the pace quicken a bit. Please.

Posted by Reverse Polarity | June 27, 2008 11:13 AM

I'm sick of it because I'm very much afraid that the Republicans are going to use all the recent hullaballoo to scare the shit out of Middle America and use it to their advantage come the November elections...

Posted by michael strangeways | June 27, 2008 11:32 AM

Umm...5 years, Eli? You might want to schedule an interview with Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin for some perspective.

I suppose that would seem like a long time when you can count your age and still have plenty of fingers and toes left over.

Good not to obsess about it, though. There's more to life than politics.

Posted by Hartiepie | June 27, 2008 11:33 AM

michael strangeways @ 8,

Meh, so what if Middle America votes Republican again?

The Republicans have been ass-raping those mouth-breathing, tongue-talking, face-biting, snake-handling troglodites for nearly three decades, and they're squealing for more! John McBush will finish them off either by sending them all off to die in new wars, giving them all 400% interest only home equity loans for Great Depression-Dustbowl 2, or gittin' 'em nuked. Or all of the above!

Strangely enough, we gayz have made far more progess legally and socially over the last eight otherwise disastrous Bush years, than ever before.

Posted by Original Andrew | June 27, 2008 12:13 PM

Dan I usually read the Stranger every Wednesday over a beer and a take-myself-to-dinner place but this time I'm waiting to read it with my bf because it is my favorite issue!!

ahhh delayed gratification.

Posted by Non | June 27, 2008 12:33 PM

non: you are just too fucking retarded for words. no, wait... "fucking"..."retarded"... there they are! that's you. indeed.

Posted by adrian | June 27, 2008 1:40 PM

Not to worry, Eli, there are lots of selfless individuals who will continue to dedicate their lives to this issue, so feel free to indulge in some petulant whining.

Posted by crazycatguy | June 27, 2008 2:14 PM

Adrian: why did you feel the need to take this in to another thread?

Need to try to make yourself look good in a thread you know Dan was checking?

Honestly though your bitterness is going to ruin what is left of you.

If you check into anything you have ever written and look at it through the eyes of a casual reader, you might find yourself wondering: "who exactly is this guy mad at?" "where does this hate come from that he is projecting on even the most innocent of subjects (i.e. Jean Ennerson)?"

It's painfully obvious that you have a bone to pick with somebody...or yourself.

Or maybe it is just your schtik.

Either way, it's pathetic.

Posted by Non | June 27, 2008 3:32 PM

Gay marriage has been so over for quite a while in Canada, actually.

It will be a big thing in Cali for a few years, until we get at least ten states that have gay marriage in the USA, and then it will be nothing much in Cali.

Eventually, we'll all just move on and not really care, quite frankly.

And that, is, when you think about it, a Good Thing.

Posted by Will in Seattle | June 27, 2008 3:36 PM

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