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Thursday, April 10, 2008

To the Sick Motherfucker Who Was Masturbating/Trying to Expose Himself Through My Apartment Window Last Night

posted by on April 10 at 11:55 AM

FUCK YOU.

To the rest of Ballard: I don’t have much of a description—white dude, about 5’10”-6’0, I’d guess (based on where his torso fell in the frame of my window). Late 30s, a little grungy lookin’, but I just saw his face for a second. He was wearing a black sweatshirt with a big Adidas logo on the front.

He was pressed up against the window in my basement apartment, his sweatshirt pulled up over his belly, pants pulled down far enough to where I couldn’t see them when I briefly saw his hips, and his hand was down by his crotch and out of sight (but obviously doing something dirty). Shudder. He moved a concrete block that’s outside for propping open the door to sit directly under my living room window. Before he ran away, it looked like he was trying to step up on it to get his dick up past the window sill, but he had a hard time balancing while playing with himself. Asshole.

Fuck you, dude. I called the cops. If anyone sees someone that fits that (admittedly vague) description snooping around your building/property near downtown Ballard, call the cops. Or kick him in the junk.

Try it again, motherfucker, and I’ll cut it off.

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1

Interesting.

You do know you just described about 25 percent of the guys in Ballard, right?

Next time use your cell phone to take a pic and email it to the SPD.

Posted by Will in Seattle | April 10, 2008 11:59 AM
2

Ballard is such a cess-pool, I can't figure out why it's so popular.... OHhhhhh it's popular with the pervs, got it.

Posted by Sargon Bighorn | April 10, 2008 12:02 PM
3

Oh the joys of living at ground level... I know them well... Just be glad you don't live across the street from a nuthouse... Or worse, anywhere between 17th and 23rd on Yesler (AKA Busted Ass Hooker Row).

The things I have witnessed would make Satan blush like a catholic school girl.

Posted by Queen_of_Sleaze | April 10, 2008 12:04 PM
4

all this - over a drunken attempt to show some dick to an adult woman?

my, my - sounds more funny than serious - of course when women show tits and more, it is just OK fun

ding dong the puritans are still here

poor guy, had he hit on the gay guys in the building he would have gotten a hand job at least

Posted by John | April 10, 2008 12:06 PM
5

I think you're being a little irrational here, Megan. You just need more time with him.

Posted by Mr. Poe | April 10, 2008 12:06 PM
6

fuck yeah, Megan Seling.

Posted by kazuo | April 10, 2008 12:11 PM
7

TAKE BACK THE NIGHT, my sister!

Posted by Bauhaus | April 10, 2008 12:14 PM
8

Well, that's what you get for wearing those sexy Nazi uniforms around the house.

Posted by Fifty-Two-Eighty | April 10, 2008 12:18 PM
9

This is made all the more awkward by the close proximity to the "Eric Grandy, Stalker" post.

Posted by kid icarus | April 10, 2008 12:19 PM
10

A girlfriend who worked in Ballard years ago had a story about this sort of thing at least once a week. Seattle may always never be the cosmopolitan oasis some would like, but its perverts are world-class!

Posted by Dougsf | April 10, 2008 12:21 PM
11

@1 By the time I thought of that, he was gone.

@4 I've been flashed on the street before. And to that I say "Gross, asshole" and keep walking. But this was while I was at home. And he wasn't flashing, laughing, and running, he was doing more than that. That's what bothers me.

Posted by Megan Seling | April 10, 2008 12:21 PM
12

Buy a squirt gun. Keep bleach in the house. When you see him, load up, open the window, and ruin his junk.

Posted by Fnarf | April 10, 2008 12:22 PM
13

Calling the cops on him Meagan? Gee, I would have thought you would have jumped him right then and there. Your a Stranger staffer right?

Posted by Cato the Younger Younger | April 10, 2008 12:22 PM
14

Public Masturbation/Exposure by straight dudes seems to be all the rage.

Yet another gay cultural institution appropriated by the straight community.

like Kylie Minogue, vogueing, poppers and Sex in the City.

Posted by michael strangeways | April 10, 2008 12:28 PM
15

c'mon megan, you know the spd aren't gonna do shit about it. this is something you deal with yourself. be creative. an airhorn blast, some pepper spray, or fnarf's suggestion. have fun with it!

Posted by ellarosa | April 10, 2008 12:28 PM
16

The fear of having it cut off is probably what drives him to have relationships with women only through windows (there's a metaphor in there somewhere, I just know it). Probably had an emotionally distant mother. I suggest you let him stay, he just might graduate to more direct interaction if he can't get off now.

Posted by El Seven | April 10, 2008 12:30 PM
17

God. Too many assholes comment on the Slog these days. I hope this guy squirts a load into the window of you dick heads who think this is no big deal and want to give Megan a hard time about it. You know who you are.

And I hope they bust this guy.

Posted by elenchos | April 10, 2008 12:30 PM
18

pity the window wasn't open. you could have lured him closer, and then shut the window on his johnson. but fnarf's idea is better.

Posted by scary tyler moore | April 10, 2008 12:31 PM
19

Passive aggression will get you nowhere... except in trouble.

Posted by Gomez | April 10, 2008 12:34 PM
20

Megan, that sounds horrible. In Ballard, of all places. I'm co-signing Fnarf's squirt gun with bleach idea!

Posted by Katelyn | April 10, 2008 12:35 PM
21

You enjoyed the attention.

Posted by paul | April 10, 2008 12:38 PM
22

@17: Agreed. Those of you giving Megan shit about this are real a-holes.

@14: Flashing in windows is not a gay cultural institution. That's a bit like saying all paedophiles are homos. As for the homos that think that showing the ass through chaps or other parts publically, I call them on their shit all the time.

As for the bleach... that might sting. I'd recommend a taser. That dart sticking into his junk and then giving him 50000 volts would give him an experience to remember. Aim for the tip.

Posted by Dave Coffman | April 10, 2008 12:51 PM
23

you just described me. I dont remember being in ballard last night but then again I dont remember what I had for breakfast, so there.

Posted by linus | April 10, 2008 12:55 PM
24

@17/22: Seriously, I hope someone catches him. It's disgusting and not acceptable.

Posted by Dawgson | April 10, 2008 12:58 PM
25

You can tell all the aggressive straight guys - like - foolish fnarf, yes, aggression, blind him, cut his dick off - no wonder you all have so many murders, child killers and fights in your bars

yuk

The gay men posters here a have a sense of proportion and some humor, even in a tacky moment. No need to blind the guy, maim him for life or ruin your own life over something so ... who cares, the next day.

Tell him to go away, tell him his dick is too small to bother with and call the police, shut the window and pull the drapes.

Easy. Then after two drinks, forget it. Forever. No negative baggage you need to carry around.

Posted by Larkin | April 10, 2008 1:00 PM
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#20 - I'm all for Fnarf'ing (sorry, "load a squirt gun full of bleach" takes too long to say. Actually, fuck-it, whats a paint ball gun cost?) that guy in the balls as well, but as far back as I remember, Ballard has kinda been ground zero for this kinda thing. There's just something a little bit LURKIER about Ballard's lurkers.

So happy to be on the top floor these days.

Posted by Dougsf | April 10, 2008 1:02 PM
27

Sheesh Megan! Would it have killed you to at least take a picture?


Posted by montex | April 10, 2008 1:08 PM
28

Get an air horn.

Posted by PGC | April 10, 2008 1:15 PM
29

Uh... yeah... Okay... So now your new "friend" knows where you live AND where you work AND what your name is... Let the stalking begin!!! (Probably would have been wiser to post this through I Anonymous. Just a thought....)

Posted by You_Gotta_Be_Kidding_Me | April 10, 2008 1:26 PM
30

A few years back a friend of mine caught some perv whacking off while watching her through her bedroom window. Once the police showed up and checked out the outside of her house they found a cinderblock he had been standing on surrounded by cigarette butts. The asshole had been watching her for who knows how long... I say, take whatever precautions you need to make sure the guy doesn't come back to your window again... I like the bleach suggestion.

Posted by SDizzle | April 10, 2008 1:26 PM
31

@4,

The asshole behaves that way because he knows it offends and humiliates his targets. That's what gets him off. But go ahead and blame women for being the targets of predators and perverts. Rape only hurts if you fight it, right?

@25,

The same comment to you, asshole.


How many of the straight men telling Megan to just brush it off or laugh it off would go apeshit if a gay man did something similar to them?

Fuck. You.

Posted by keshmeshi | April 10, 2008 1:28 PM
32

There must not have been a picnic table available.

Posted by elswinger | April 10, 2008 1:29 PM
33

gomez: were you at the deluxe last night for burger-rama? if not you have a doppelgänger.

Posted by some dude | April 10, 2008 1:31 PM
34

The difference between women and gay men:

A reasonably attractive and not obviously insane strange man jacks off in a woman's window and she freaks out and calls the cops.

A reasonably attractive and not obviously insane strange man jacks off in a gay man's window and we invite him in for cocktails, a "Little Britain" marathon, and a Crisco rubdown.

Posted by michael strangeways | April 10, 2008 2:22 PM
35

My money's on Chuck Heston (5280). Anybody who loves guns and will eat with McCain & Cheney has some sexual issues.

Posted by left coast | April 10, 2008 2:40 PM
36

Ted Bundy started off as a peeper. No big deal, right?

Posted by mint chocolate chip | April 10, 2008 2:53 PM
37

@11 - i like the squirt gun - use lemon juice or strong vinegar that stings ... sorry, just thought it might be a useful idea.

Posted by Will in Seattle | April 10, 2008 2:58 PM
38

Yeah it's funny to joke about, but in all seriousness, incidents like that can be scary (especially when they happen right outside your window). I generally consider myself a pretty fearless person, but I've experienced a similar incident and it left me shaking.

Posted by Ashley | April 10, 2008 3:01 PM
39

ok, after rereading the posts, I'm ok with the bleach I guess, but I still think a paint ball gun might be more fun. @36 - woah, TMI.

Posted by Will in Seattle | April 10, 2008 3:02 PM
40

LoL at basement apartment.

Stranger staffers are so less cool than people think they are.

Posted by Non | April 10, 2008 3:15 PM
41

@31

"How many of the straight men telling Megan to just brush it off or laugh it off would go apeshit if a gay man did something similar to them?"

Actually, the correct analogy would be:

How many of the straight men telling Megan to just brush it off or laugh it off would go apeshit if a Straight woman did something similar to them?

Not many, I would guess...

Posted by You_Gotta_Be_Kidding_Me | April 10, 2008 3:23 PM
42

@41,

No, it's not the same. Women have justifiable reasons to be threatened by harassment from men, men do not have justifiable reasons to be threatened by harassment from women. You are, however, threatened by harassment from gay men.

As I said, if and when straight men are subjected to sexual harassment from gay men, you guys go fucking apeshit. When women are subject to it, you tell us to get over it.

Go fuck yourself, YGBKM. You are a misogynistic fuckwit.

Posted by keshmeshi | April 10, 2008 3:26 PM
43

@42

That is actually a really fascinating point.

Posted by Non | April 10, 2008 3:32 PM
44

Megan, did you really have to start off with an F word explitive in all caps? By removing that and the last sentence your piece would have been more, not less, effective.

Posted by raindrop | April 10, 2008 3:36 PM
45

#42 - God are you out of touch.

Do you have a real sex life, like, in a today, Seattle 2008 envronment?

When straight men harass gay men, or gay men harass gay men,

Guess what -

Blow jobs all around, all is well, all forgotten. Men like sex.

Get real, you old puritan prude. Your all up tight all the time value system is crazy and full of hang ups. Try play peeping tom with your therapist ... and try to come.

Report in two weeks.

Posted by Larkin | April 10, 2008 3:43 PM
46

The best response to a flasher that I ever heard about was, "Oh! How cute! It's just like a penis, only smaller!"

Posted by Breklor | April 10, 2008 3:46 PM
47

raindrop @44:

you are a EXPLITIVE-ing TOOL.

Posted by toolbox monitor | April 10, 2008 3:49 PM
48

Hugs Megan. That sounds scary.
Invite a friend to spend the night for a few days so you do not feel alone.

This is the time a Pit Bull would have been a good thing to have.

Posted by mj | April 10, 2008 3:58 PM
49

@12: A squirtgun full of bleach was once my ex-boyfriend's idea for divebombing crows on Queen Anne. Fnarf, you continue to make the Slog a brighter place.

Posted by kerri harrop | April 10, 2008 4:08 PM
50

I remember watching this budweiser comercial where a woman gets X-ray vision (no longer included) and is checking out a hot guy jack hammering (then disgusted when the fat guy takes over). If a man got X-ray vision, why it would just be creepy and NOT funny.

Now role reversal, when women get to be perverted it's funny. When men are perverted, they are just creeps. Would MOST men be complaining if a woman was masturbating in the window?

I'm not complaining so much as stating what is. And I'm asking why is it that way?

Posted by OR Matt | April 10, 2008 4:14 PM
51

My last statement ... I take that back

I take that back ... I remember this very very bad Mardi Gras thing I went to. My friends and I were just there to get drunk, but my god a lot of large and frustrated women were out in force and TRYING SO HARD. (Mardi Gras people, when you don't get beads, nobody wants you to take off your top1) Eventualy the gang gave up and decided we WANTED OUT.

We go outside to find some very large woman "furiously masterbating" in front of the door guy after she was kicked out and wanted to come back into the bar.

The cops then arived... and then a fire truck (??????).

Ok, I take that back ... that was so gross ... but still funny.

Posted by OR Matt | April 10, 2008 4:24 PM
52

My last statement ... I take that back

I take that back ... I remember this very very bad Mardi Gras thing I went to. My friends and I were just there to get drunk, but my god a lot of large and frustrated women were out in force and TRYING SO HARD. (Mardi Gras people, when you don't get beads, nobody wants you to take off your top1) Eventualy the gang gave up and decided we WANTED OUT.

We go outside to find some very large woman "furiously masterbating" in front of the door guy after she was kicked out and wanted to come back into the bar.

The cops then arived... and then a fire truck (??????).

Ok, I take that back ... that was so gross ... but still funny.

Posted by OR Matt | April 10, 2008 4:24 PM
53

Dear Dave Coffman,

You haven't been on Craigslist for awhile, have you? There's plenty of ads on there for voyeurs and voyees...(yes, I know, that's exposure with permission which is totally different from what happened to Megan) Still, I think the majority of gay men, when encountered with a reasonably attractive, not obviously crazy man wacking off in their eyesight are either going to get turned on by it or at the very least, be flattered and then be amused by it and move on, (unless of course the pervert is old, ugly, out of shape, or poor looking; when it comes to sex, most of us are hypocrites...)

And if exposed male body parts horrify you, please avoid the Eagle, Volunteer Park, the Arboretum, restrooms at the Minneapolis ariport and most streets on Capitol Hill after the bars close...

Posted by michael strangeways | April 10, 2008 4:38 PM
54

The difference between men and women's reactions to strange men/women hiding out under their windows can be explained by the number of cases of rapes/sexual violence against women. It's perfectly natural to be wary of a random guy stalking you... who knows what he is capable of if he is already violating your privacy in such a way?

Pretending there is no difference (or that it's because all girls are prudes??WTF) is simply denial.

Mysoginistic denial. Yup.

Posted by Cinders | April 10, 2008 5:03 PM
55

@54
Well ... lots of men get "assualted" too. It's just weird because men are obviously the more proactive ones in sex. But there is got to be some psychological thing to it. It's not violent, it's not nearly as intense or demoralizing, and yet we are instucted to take these "encounters" as compliments when our thoughts and feelings don't really even matter, even though we may feel "violated" and we are supposed to feel proud.

I think the violence thing is kind of a cop out and only part of the reason. No, I'm not accussing women of being prudes, I'm just thinking we're wired differently.

For starters, when it comes to foreplay or even building a trusting relationship with a strange woman, I wouldn't just walk up to her and wip out my piece. When a decent looking girl walks up to an average guy and shows her stuff, she might get a better response. (not implying women should do that either ... )

Posted by OR Matt | April 10, 2008 5:23 PM
56

Holy Christ are some of you guys ever naive! You are surprised that a woman wouldn't just laugh this off? That shows a remarkable lack of understanding about women, men, and the way the real world works. Gay or straight, you need to get some serious schooling on this.

When a woman is alone, and sees a strange man appear at her window, her first response is going to be FEAR. He's already on your property, so how do you know he's not going to try to break in? He's a guy, he's bigger than you, and we all know about women being beaten, raped, or killed in these situations. For a woman, fear is a LOGICAL response to a male intruder. Add that he's exposing himself, and the alarm bells go off the scale. As they should.

There is nothing sexy or flirty about a grungy-looking stranger masturbating outside your window. He is being disrespectful, intimidating, and should be seen as a potential threat. Only in some kind of cartoon fantasy world would he be seen by any sane woman as funny, sexy, or no big deal. And I would argue that most MEN, gay or straight, would feel exactly the same way.

Finally, Larkin and Michael Strangeways, you are utter idiots. Go fuck yourselves.

Posted by Irena | April 10, 2008 5:58 PM
57

You couldn't see his face, but his dick wasn't high enough to show up on the windowsill? What did you see, his belly and nothing else? In a basement apartment? Was he slithering around on the ground?

I'm confused. Not that I'm so sure I want a vivid picture of this anyway.

Posted by tsm | April 10, 2008 6:10 PM
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@56 ... all right fine. But why are the egrigious majority of sexual assaults come from these things called "date rape" where you actually "know" the person who is violating you, which is even more intimidating. How do you turn in someone you know, who everyone on the planet trusts and seems to good person accept the victim who knows different.

They aren't sexual preditors who stalked you walking home from the party. Date rapers are often people who you met for dinner and decided to take it upon themselves to take to the next level.

Posted by OR Matt | April 10, 2008 7:21 PM
59

Irena you are awesome!

Posted by mj | April 10, 2008 7:56 PM
60

@45,

Let me make this very clear to you. You are scum.

When gay men harass straight men, straight men freak the fuck out. For once, they get to see what it's like to be a woman in this society, constantly harassed, in constant fear of assault, and often getting assaulted.

By the way, Megan did not give her permission for that asshole to use her for his sex fantasy, and to let her know that he was objectifying her. It's not puritanism; it's called basic human respect, something that you obviously do not understand.

Take your misogynistic bullshit, go to a therapist, and try to understand how to be a decent human being.

Report back in two weeks.

Posted by keshmeshi | April 10, 2008 10:57 PM
61

I think a lot of the arguments coming from certain clueless motherfuckers rests on many straight men's assumption that they are God's gift to women. I hate to break it to you, guys, but not every woman is attracted to you. Not every woman desires your attentions. Consequently, if a guy whips it out in front of a woman he doesn't know, the odds are good that she's not even attracted to him.

Leaving the other issues of sexual harassment and assault aside for a moment, women have a right to choose who to be attracted to. We have a right to choose only to fuck people we find attractive. Believe it or not, we have just as much of a right to do this as you do. If you can't deal with it, you need to grow the fuck up.

Posted by keshmeshi | April 10, 2008 11:01 PM
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"No, it's not the same. Women have justifiable reasons to be threatened by harassment from men, men do not have justifiable reasons to be threatened by harassment from women."

This is the most asinine, sexist, and plain stupid thing I've read in a long time. Men are just as justified in finding harassing behaviors threatening from anyone, male or female. Men comprise one-third of the victims of intimate partner violence and 1 out of 6 males will be the victim of sexual assault by the age of sixteen (40% of perpetrators of which are women or involve women). I'm sure your idiotic reasoning is that women are weak, delicate creature and can't cause real harm, except women are more likely to use weapons in an assault and often male victims refrain from fighting back, which is why women commit 70% of non-reciprocal violence.

"I think a lot of the arguments coming from certain clueless motherfuckers rests on many straight men's assumption that they are God's gift to women."

No, dipshit. These arguments are coming from men who see a double standard. Men are the victims of assault both sexual and, in much greater numbers than women, physical. A significant number of the offenders are women. There's no reason to judge public sexual displays differently when its by a man or by a woman other than to abide by one's sexist assumptions.

keshmeshi, you are not an insightful voice here. So here's a suggestion: take your misandrist bullshit, pack it into a tight little ball, and shove it up your ass where it came.

Posted by jay | April 11, 2008 3:34 AM
63

Megan,

I had sympathy for you right up until the end. People should not have to put up with harassment, but for you to even suggest the extreme sexual mutilation of someone because they made you feel threatened? Well, that makes you a sick fuck and a complete asshole.

Posted by jay | April 11, 2008 3:35 AM
64

@61, The most clueless arguments on this thread are coming from two or three gay men.

@62, Women suffer much more violent assaults by men, the kind that leave them hospitalized or in the morgue. Read the news.

Posted by Irena | April 11, 2008 5:06 AM
65

@64: I think the most clueless arguments on this thread are coming from jerks who think they're funny and lack the empathy is realize not all sexual come-ons are welcome.

I don't think the posters being gay is really responsible for this. Homophobia is not the best way to combat misogynistic posturing regardless of who it's coming from.

Posted by Dawgson | April 11, 2008 6:28 AM
66

@64 Sexual Assualt is no joke ... I have to live in this dirty dirty ass town with this dirtry dirty ass municipality in this dirty dirty ass state ... and yes sexual assualt is no joke.

It seems some of the most warped and sexually frustrated people (both men and women) live around here. One of my good friends (apparently one of many) was victem of a very brutal sexual assault at the ends of one of her fellow ROTC friends (i.e. date rape). What was even more bizzare was the good ole boys following that highly encouraged her NOT to report it and the police who told her to take it up "civil claims court"

Fucking serious, "civil claims court"

I guess, this town is somewhat lucky, because with the exception of rape (well reported at least) violent crime is down and the place seems to function without any trust in the police dept. But really quite fucking creepy to be a woman around here.

Comparing that to a random stranger whipping it out ... in my mind that is a stretch.

Yes, it's insulting, dirty, and degrading in and of itself, but not violent.

Posted by OR Matt | April 11, 2008 9:39 AM
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@64 and whatever ...

on the note of my previous post. I only have two more months in this dirty ass state! Anyone know of any leads for a synthetic chemist in Seattle, back in the Northest or Southern Cal? Miss city life so much.

Posted by OR Matt | April 11, 2008 9:41 AM
68

@62 right on!

Posted by OR Matt | April 11, 2008 9:48 AM
69

hmmmm...I don't think I ever said that Megan over reacted to the situation nor did I suggest that it's a joke for women to be violated in any way, shape or form. I pointed out that most men, and gay men specifically, would react much differently in the same situation. If anything, what I wrote was derogatory to men and our hounddog ways, and not demeaning to women who have the common sense to be alarmed at such potentially fraught situations. If anyone has interpreted my comments to be anti-woman, then I apologize for any confusion.

However, I will also state that dumbass people who whip out the misogynist label at anything they remotely PERCEIVE to be anything negative regarding a person of the female gender or the female psyche, really could use some therapy.

Posted by michael strangeways | April 11, 2008 10:01 AM
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"Women suffer much more violent assaults by men, the kind that leave them hospitalized or in the morgue. Read the news."

Irena,

You're grossly misinformed. Men are four times as likely to be the victim of homicide. Source:

http://www.ojp.gov/bjs/homicide/gender.htm#vsex

So why don't you read statistics instead of reading a couple of sensationalistic news stories and extrapolating them to fit your preconceptions about the world.

Posted by jay | April 11, 2008 10:47 AM
71

Jay, I believe Irena is talking about male offender/female victim in relation to female offender/male victim. Check the stats at the top of the page you linked.

Posted by gregz | April 11, 2008 11:17 AM
72

@71

Yes, you are correct. I was aware of the stats at the top of the page (my goal wasn't to claim that women commit more or equal violence against the opposite sex, only that they commit a significant amount), but I read the "by" in Irena's post as "than." So, I apologize for that.

But my previous point still stands, as women commit around 30% of homicides where the victim is the opposite gender.

Posted by jay | April 11, 2008 12:09 PM
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Dawgson @55, I was not implying that anyone was being rude or clueless BECAUSE they are gay. I was pointing out to @61 that the commenters she was targeting were not straight, as I think she assumed.

Michael Strangeways @69, your apology is appreciated. Also, I agree with your second paragraph completely.

OR Matt @66, I don't think what Megan experienced was a violent crime, but I do think it was scary. A similar thing happened to me once, and I was shaken by how vulnerable I felt. I RAN to lock the door, thinking he might come back, and I dreaded having to wash that window! I felt degraded. The fact that he was willing to use me to get himself off sexually, without asking my permission, made me wonder what else he might do. Now, when I think back on it, I am convinced he was harmless, and I feel sorry for him. But at the time, I really resented that he fucked up my night like that, for his own pleasure. I understand Megan's anger.

jay@72, I know that women can be violent, and that we are becoming more violent as we achieve equality. I also know that men suffer a significant amount of emotional abuse from women, and women as a group RARELY acknowledge that. I grew up watching my brother endure psychological torment from my mother, torment he has never recovered from. She even dared to call it feminism. It wasn't; it was violence. My heart still breaks for him.

That said, women do suffer horrible crimes at the hands of men, and because gruesome crimes sell newspapers (& books, & magazines, & movies...) we are constantly reminded of all the reasons we have to be fearful. I would love to live in a fun, safe world where some guy's fucked-up fetish can be laughed off as a joke. But I don't.

Posted by Irena | April 11, 2008 5:31 PM

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