Slog - Comments on Rough Week http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week Before I jump back into Slogging I wanted to thank everyone who sent condolence notes. It's been a rough seven days, to say the least, and the emails have truly been a comfort. I also wanted to share this picture. It was taken in the living room of the apartment on Glenwood Avenue in Chicago where I grew up—the same apartment, as I wrote in The Commitment, where my mother and grandmother grew up. I've always loved how everyone in the picture is fully lit—my dad, my mom, my brothers, my sister. Everyone except for me. I'm the boy... Copyright 2008 Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:25:16 -0800 Sat, 12 Apr 2008 06:24:28 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by steve condolences

]]> steve http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991242 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991242 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:33:19 -0800 Comment by Fifty-Two-Eighty It's rough losing a parent. My Dad died three years ago, and yes, I was there by his side at the time. My Mom is still with us at age 83, and I know her day is coming too, but enjoy having her around that much more knowing that it can't last forever. You have been in my thoughts many times over the past week, and have my deepest condolences.

]]> Fifty-Two-Eighty http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991243 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991243 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:39:05 -0800 Comment by Rye You're in our thoughts Dano!

]]> Rye http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991244 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991244 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:42:00 -0800 Comment by xina my sincere condolences. it has been a rough year for moms. my grandmother died this year and two of my dear friends' moms also died. it is a huge shift in the time-space continuum. take care.

]]> xina http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991245 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991245 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:47:12 -0800 Comment by Jeff You have a beautiful family. Thanks for all you have done and are doing to advance a positive public opinion of gays, by showing a diversity of thought.

]]> Jeff http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991246 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991246 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:48:20 -0800 Comment by umvue My condolences to you and your family.

]]> umvue http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991247 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991247 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:51:11 -0800 Comment by Sam My condolences, Dan.

]]> Sam http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991249 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991249 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:52:03 -0800 Comment by Heather Dan, sorry to hear of your mom's passing. I think no matter how old we get the loss of a parent is very difficult.

]]> Heather http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991250 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991250 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:52:29 -0800 Comment by Peter F So sorry to read the news about your mother, Dan. You've painted a picture of her for your readers over the years in your column and your books that does her proud -- it sure sounds like she thought the world of you and that the feeling was mutual. Your loss is everyone's loss.

]]> Peter F http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991253 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991253 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:56:48 -0800 Comment by Betsy Wow, what a great picture. Judging from your books and this blog, your mother sounds like an amazing person. I'm very sorry to hear of her passing. The sincerest condolences to you and your family.

]]> Betsy http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991254 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991254 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:58:32 -0800 Comment by Lesley I'm so sorry.

]]> Lesley http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991256 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991256 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:59:07 -0800 Comment by Andy Niable Lost my own mother in 2001, and the world was never the same after--like the vibration of the universe changed. Maybe once our direct biological link to the world is gone, things do change.

But how nice she lives on in your work.

Be well, Dan, and heal.

]]> Andy Niable http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991257 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991257 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:00:55 -0800 Comment by MikeSF My sincere condolences. Thank you for your At A Loss column. It was very touching.

]]> MikeSF http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991259 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991259 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:01:47 -0800 Comment by Kevin Sorry to hear that Dan. Keep your head up. As a Rogers Park resident I'm sad to see a neighbor go. Best to you and your family.

Is there a charity we can direct donations to in your mother's name? Perhaps flowers?

]]> Kevin http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991260 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991260 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:04:55 -0800 Comment by Michigan Matt (soon to be Balt-o-matt) This photo is fantastic on so many levels, Dan. You're fortunate to have so many wonderful memories. Your mom was such a great presence during summers in MI. So many people will miss her.

]]> Michigan Matt (soon to be Balt-o-matt) http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991263 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991263 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:07:59 -0800 Comment by DanFan What a cutie pie! Thinking about you, Dan...

]]> DanFan http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991264 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991264 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:08:29 -0800 Comment by Fitz Sorry for your loss, Dan. Take care.

]]> Fitz http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991266 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991266 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:10:21 -0800 Comment by Kristin Bell I wish good moms and dads could live forever.

]]> Kristin Bell http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991268 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991268 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:12:15 -0800 Comment by Karlheinz Arschbomber As @12 says, you keep the most important part of her alive by being you. And doing your best for your kid. I'm looking across my office here in Hamburg at a similar family portrait, but we're all a bit older than in your photo above. Both parents have been gone for years, and I still deeply miss them.

]]> Karlheinz Arschbomber http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991269 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991269 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:14:02 -0800 Comment by Ken
My condolences.

]]> Ken http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991271 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991271 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:17:12 -0800 Comment by josh Very sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

]]> josh http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991273 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991273 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:19:12 -0800 Comment by Katelyn Welcome back to Slog, Dan... weeks like the one you've had are rough on the body, the mind, and the soul and I hope you're taking good care of yourself. Indulge your inner five year old!! Losing a parent is a heart-wrenchingly awful thing to have to experience.

]]> Katelyn http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991274 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991274 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:19:34 -0800 Comment by Original Monique My deepest sympathy Dan. The boyfriend and I are keeping your family in our thoughts.

]]> Original Monique http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991275 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991275 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:19:47 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO Dan,
We love you. Take your time coming back. We'll miss you, but we can survive without you for a few days....

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991277 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991277 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:23:24 -0800 Comment by ahava That's a great photo. As a grieiving person myself, I will just say that time takes care of what the heart can't. I'm glad you're taking the time to feel what you need to feel and honor your mother. Take good care.

]]> ahava http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991280 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991280 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:27:35 -0800 Comment by Andrew My deepest condolences Dan

]]> Andrew http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991281 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991281 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:28:28 -0800 Comment by -B- Cool picture. It looks like the photographer, or someone off to the side said something to make you and your brother laugh a little.

thanks for sharing
Brian

]]> -B- http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991283 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991283 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:32:29 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO Oh, yeah, and your Savage Love column brought tears to my eyes...

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991284 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991284 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:32:29 -0800 Comment by Mike in MO @ 14: in Dan's latest Savage Love, he requests donations be sent to PFLAG.

]]> Mike in MO http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991285 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991285 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:34:57 -0800 Comment by Bellevue Ave i find it humorous that your dad was the only one looking at the camera.

]]> Bellevue Ave http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991287 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991287 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:35:18 -0800 Comment by Ben Masters Sincerest condolences Dan. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

]]> Ben Masters http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991291 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991291 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 08:42:37 -0800 Comment by Jessica Condolences to you and your family, Dan. I'm so sorry for your loss.

]]> Jessica http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991311 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991311 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:00:50 -0800 Comment by photogreg Hey Dan. You and I are going through the same thing. My mom passed away 3 days ago. Her funeral is Friday. Even though we knew the time was coming (she's had Alzheimer's for 4 years) it's still painful. I'm trying to concentrate on the good memories of her.

My partner and I enjoy your podcast.

Greg

]]> photogreg http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991316 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991316 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:04:56 -0800 Comment by Abby My condolences, Dan. Good luck.

]]> Abby http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991319 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991319 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:08:39 -0800 Comment by piglet I'm so sorry.

]]> piglet http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991320 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991320 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:08:44 -0800 Comment by Big_K in Chicago Dan, I think we all feel like we've lost a Mom because you always painted a wonderful picture of a great woman. Let me know where you're all drinking Friday evening and I'll buy y'all a round.

]]> Big_K in Chicago http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991324 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991324 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:10:41 -0800 Comment by Andrew Whenever I look at similar photos of my own family I am stunned to see how impossibly young my (now deceased) parents were.

My deepest condolences.

]]> Andrew http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991346 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991346 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:27:10 -0800 Comment by Mr. Poe /power hug.

]]> Mr. Poe http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991352 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991352 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:35:20 -0800 Comment by cracked Sincerest condolences to you and the rest of your family Dan. From what you've shared over the years I know the earth will miss her.

]]> cracked http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991353 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991353 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:36:10 -0800 Comment by jon c My condolences. I'd always smile whenever you mentioned her in the podcast or the column - she seemed like a great mom and a great person.

]]> jon c http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991361 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991361 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:40:02 -0800 Comment by Queen Vidor Dan - very sorry for your loss. Your mother is beautiful.

]]> Queen Vidor http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991372 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991372 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:44:59 -0800 Comment by Hernandez My condolences to you and your family.

]]> Hernandez http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991375 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991375 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:47:48 -0800 Comment by Fnarf That's a beautiful photo to remember her by.

]]> Fnarf http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991387 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991387 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:56:23 -0800 Comment by Cascadian I'm so very sorry for your loss. My condolences to your family.

Your column last week was a great tribute to an obviously wonderful woman. Your work and words carry on her spirit.

]]> Cascadian http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991388 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991388 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:56:25 -0800 Comment by PopTart Dan, your "At a Loss" column was incredibly moving. Your mother sounds like a woman who was full of compassion and grace. My condolences to you and your family.

]]> PopTart http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991404 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991404 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:05:36 -0800 Comment by Georgia Guy I actually gasped out loud when I read the news in your column. I am so sorry for your loss. From the stories you've told about her, I'm sure your mom was a terrific woman. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers (cliche, but true).

]]> Georgia Guy http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991405 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991405 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:06:07 -0800 Comment by Shawn Hugs to you & the family Dan. We all feel a part of your extended family. That pic of you & the family almost made me cry.

]]> Shawn http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991406 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991406 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:06:07 -0800 Comment by LMSW My condolences. take care.

]]> LMSW http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991416 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991416 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:11:13 -0800 Comment by michael strangeways Your tribute to your mom was beautiful. You were proud of her, and she was proud of you.

You did good.

]]> michael strangeways http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991421 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991421 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:13:47 -0800 Comment by trent moorman Welcome back, Dan. I'm so sorry for your loss. That picture makes me miss home. I remember the family portraits my Mom used to have us do. She always put my brother and I in matching one piece outfits. I like your outfit better.

]]> trent moorman http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991431 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991431 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:18:08 -0800 Comment by Matt from Denver Dan, I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't slog all the time anymore so this is the first I heard. My sincere condolences.

]]> Matt from Denver http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991438 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991438 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:24:25 -0800 Comment by Beth That sucks, Dan. Through your books and columns, you painted a great picture of your mom, and I honestly cried when I read your column. Take all the time you need to grieve properly. My thoughts are with you and your family.

]]> Beth http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991459 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991459 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:33:45 -0800 Comment by Vasya RIP.

I never know what to say in times like these =/.

]]> Vasya http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991504 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991504 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:53:45 -0800 Comment by Gidget Dan, I am so sorry. I feel I knew your Mom through your books and other writing. She was an amazing woman. Love to you, Terry and DJ.

]]> Gidget http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991531 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991531 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:59:58 -0800 Comment by joey i'm so sorry to hear this. as a gay man, i can't imagine a bigger loss than that of a mother.

]]> joey http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991600 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991600 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:25:09 -0800 Comment by Nandor As with #54, I also "knew" your mom through your writing, and I cried from reading your last column. My own parents are emotionally distant from my brother and me - I wish I had half as much of a relationship with either of them as you had with your mom. My condolences.

]]> Nandor http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991604 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991604 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:25:31 -0800 Comment by mj Your Mom has left us a wonderful gift in you Dan! She was obviously a great mom and woman.
IF my children love and honor me as much as you have your mom I will be happy forever.

Big hugs and lots of love

Mary Jo Hansen

]]> mj http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991615 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991615 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:28:49 -0800 Comment by merry My deepest condolences, Dan... Your column last week was extraordinarily moving -- thank you for writing it. And thank you, too, for sharing this wonderful picture of you and your family. Your mom totally looks like Tina Fey in this pic!!

Thank you for letting us get to know her. God Bless.

]]> merry http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991653 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991653 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:39:54 -0800 Comment by Justin J My condolences, Dan.

]]> Justin J http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991730 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991730 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 12:04:35 -0800 Comment by ecce homo Prayers for you and your family at this difficult time.

I know how hard it is to lose a parent, but just remember that they loved you.

Take care Dan,

Ecce Homo

]]> ecce homo http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991765 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991765 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 12:22:50 -0800 Comment by small world society St. Ignatius is where my sister got married. Did you know the Collerans I wonder.

]]> small world society http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991854 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991854 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:00:24 -0800 Comment by RHETT ORACLE A real unselfish love,
I found in my mother's eyes.

My sympathies to you and your family.

]]> RHETT ORACLE http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991885 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991885 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:11:25 -0800 Comment by Eric from Boulder Is one ever really ready to lose a parent? Does one ever really acknowledge that they're gone? All I can say from my own experience is "maybe sometime, but not yet." But the keenness of the grief will gradually dull, Dan. My condolences to you.

]]> Eric from Boulder http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991890 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991890 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:13:12 -0800 Comment by Boomer in NYC My thoughts and care to you and all your family; your mom was a great lady.

]]> Boomer in NYC http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991902 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991902 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:17:27 -0800 Comment by COMTE I'll add my condolences to the long list here, but I also just want to point out for the record, this may be the ONLY Slog column in history in which not a single snide, snarky or pointless comment appears.

And I think your mom would have been comforted by that - she always seemed like a classy lady, and the heartfelt, compassionate responses contained herein reflect, I hope, our admiration and respect for her, and our sadness at her passing.

]]> COMTE http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991919 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c991919 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:23:23 -0800 Comment by gnossos Condolences to you and your family Dan.

]]> gnossos http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992129 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992129 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 14:59:57 -0800 Comment by fangirlhater Late to the post. =/
My deepest condolences go out to you and your family, Dan. Through your work, you've painted a picture of a beautiful woman, inside, and apparently outside, too. I'll keep your whole family in my prayers!

]]> fangirlhater http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992317 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992317 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 16:43:35 -0800 Comment by Ed :( I'm really sorry Dan. I hope that very soon you can only remember the good, not the bad.

]]> Ed http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992336 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992336 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 16:54:51 -0800 Comment by Estoppel Condolences. I feel like I know your mother after reading about her for many years--a truly wonderful woman, from the sounds of it. I also worked with your brother for a time and I am confident you will have a good group to get lit with.

]]> Estoppel http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992351 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992351 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:01:21 -0800 Comment by feom My condolences for your loss. Thinking of you.

]]> feom http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992387 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992387 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:37:50 -0800 Comment by Irena Oh Dan, your mother is so pretty! And she clearly loved you so much. You were one of the lucky ones. Take care.

]]> Irena http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992397 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992397 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:45:51 -0800 Comment by Deacon Seattle Hearts.

]]> Deacon Seattle http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992484 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992484 Life Mon, 07 Apr 2008 19:17:33 -0800 Comment by Annamal Just wanted to say condolences all the way from New Zealand. Your books painted a wonderful human picture of your mother and the world is definitely a lesser place without her.

]]> Annamal http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992635 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992635 Life Tue, 08 Apr 2008 03:52:10 -0800 Comment by William I lost my Mother two weeks ago. My thoughts are with you I know how you feel I see it in your writting.

Welcome back home to Chicago, the whole city feels your loss and wishes you the best.

]]> William http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992649 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992649 Life Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:07:36 -0800 Comment by Rich Dan, my deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I've been where you are and it hurts like hell. I know it's hard to believe now, but it does get better. You will reach a point where your every thought of your mother makes you smile and you will be happy just to know how blessed she made your life. You will miss her every day but it reaches a point of being poignant and not painful. Hugs to you.

]]> Rich http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992653 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c992653 Life Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:51:05 -0800 Comment by CheshireKatz Deepest condolences to you and your whole family, Dan.

]]> CheshireKatz http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c993331 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c993331 Life Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:43:06 -0800 Comment by Jennifer in Chicago My grandfather died three years ago in August. The first line of the (rather insipid) poem on his card was "I'd like the memory of me to be a happy one." That's what he would have wanted, I know it, and so would your mother. I have several cards, one I keep at home, the other is in my wallet. As cliche as it sounds, it makes me feel like he's always with me. She's still here, she lives on in you and your siblings. She was a truly great woman. I wish I had known her. Drink to her on Friday, and be well, Dan, for yourself and your family.

]]> Jennifer in Chicago http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c993878 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c993878 Life Wed, 09 Apr 2008 12:20:25 -0800 Comment by Winchester, UK Dan, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. I hope you are feeling somewhat better.

]]> Winchester, UK http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c996864 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/04/rough_week#c996864 Life Sat, 12 Apr 2008 06:24:28 -0800