Savage Love Savage Love Letter of the Day
posted by March 21 at 13:30 PMon
The letter below was written in response to a letter that appears in this week’s Savage Love, which you can read here.
As a breast cancer survivor who did the breast reconstruction and now wishes she didn’t, I have to speak up for for the wife of IMHB. Implants are painful to get (the expansion process is hell) and need to be replaced every 10 years or less, are uncomfortable, expensive, and don’t even look so great naked (at least mine don’t). Aside from all that, there is no sexual sensation in the implants for the woman. What is gone is gone and for IMHB to resent his wife (and yes I think he does, a tiny bit) for not going through a painful and surgical (and therefor potentially dangerous process) for his visual sexual stimulation is, well, rude. I think you nailed it, Dan, when you wrote, “how would I feel if [my boyfriend’s] body changed as he aged and after a few decades together he wasn’t the exact same 23-year-old club kid I picked up in that gay bar?”
IMHB needs to be GGG and either close his eyes, turn her over, or duh, realize that he loves this woman and get over his homophobic fears that no boobs = boy. If he doesn’t there is always the possibility that his wife will find someone who recognizes her for the strong, courageous woman that she is, finds that a tremendous turn on, and rocks her world.
With Implants But Regrets It