Slog - Comments on Youth Pastor Watch http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21 Oklahoma: The Sequoyah County District Attorney's office on Tuesday filed a notice of intent to introduce evidence of other wrongs in the case of a youth minister accused of making indecent proposals to a 14-year-old girl.... According to court records, Sequoyah County Sheriff's Deputy Cindy Smith received a report on June 29 from a girl, who was 13 at the time. The girl relayed to police several alleged conversations that she had with [Spencer] Tally that became sexual.... According to court records, Tally admitted that one of the girl's friends told him the girl liked him. Smith asked Tally if... Copyright 2008 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:00:18 -0800 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:09:47 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by infrequent you have to be available to youth when you are a committed christian called to christ.

]]> infrequent http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904262 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904262 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:35:08 -0800 Comment by vooodooo84 Jesus loves all the little children

]]> vooodooo84 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904269 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904269 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:37:34 -0800 Comment by Reality Check Can't we all just be available err.. I mean friends?

]]> Reality Check http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904274 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904274 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:39:58 -0800 Comment by Greg Remember guys, you have to avoid not just inappropriate behavior but also the appearance of inappropriate behavior.

]]> Greg http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904289 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904289 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:51:31 -0800 Comment by Lauren The full article mentions (alleged) lewd text messages sent by the pastor to the girl. I find it difficult to condemn a man on the unsubstantiated word of another, but if he left a digital trail he dug his own grave.

Even if she likes you, it's not appropriate to send a 13-year-old sexy messages. That goes without saying, right?

]]> Lauren http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904396 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904396 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:15:18 -0800 Comment by infrequent what i notice missing from this story is the adult/friend who contacted authorities. usually a mom or a friend or someone else learns of the "relationship" and calls the police. in this case, it seems the girl was the one who made the call.

]]> infrequent http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904443 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904443 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:46:36 -0800 Comment by Voice Of Experience Honestly, I am kinda on the pastor's side for this one a little. But only a little. Youthgroupie girls learn to cruise for men before kids that age even know what cruising is. And they usually get them.

]]> Voice Of Experience http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904449 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904449 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:48:33 -0800 Comment by Lauren @6: Weird... I see what you mean--the article states that the girl made the report. But why?

Perhaps she was forced to by her parents?

If you have a youth minister, chances are your parents have some expectation of you maintaining your "godly" virtue. Get busted flirting with your youth minister? You probably don't dare tell them that you had a crush on the man. You've got five more years under their roof, after all. And then the story changes...

Or, maybe she got in over her head. I remember being attracted to men at a fairly young age, but I wouldn't have known what to do with one if it had gotten that far.

Or hell, maybe she's a budding sociopath. Ever heard the song "Missed Me" by the Dresden Dolls?

]]> Lauren http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904485 http://slog.thestranger.com/2008/01/youth_pastor_watch_21#c904485 Religion Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:09:47 -0800