Slog - Comments on Youth Pastor Watch http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14 Kentucky: WAVE 3 has learned that a man who is a local high school wrestling coach, a substitute teacher and a youth minister has been arrested. The Bullitt County Sheriff's Department says the Shepherdsville man sexually abused a 15 year old girl at the church. We had a chance to speak to the victim's mother who--obviously distraught--described 25-year-old Clayton Pruett as a wolf in sheep's clothing. She now has a strong warning for all parents. "Don't trust people that are alone with your children," said the woman, who asked not to be identified. She says her daughter was the victim... Copyright 2008 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 12:50:31 -0800 Mon, 17 Dec 2007 20:44:25 -0800 http://www.movabletype.org/?v=3.34 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Comment by K The lesson here is: Don't trust your kids. Trust ministers and teachers. Kids are evil and lie, adults are pure and innocent.

I'm surprised Pruett didn't advocate sending the girl off to one of those youth-readjustment camps or an exorcism or something for her sinful lying.

]]> K http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876084 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876084 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 13:02:08 -0800 Comment by Gitai Sigh. Stories like this are the reason why my dojo has to draft rules about contact between instructors and children. I don't think there's any real risk, but at the same time, it's easier to tell an instructor, "We don't want to get sued," than to tell a parent, "Sorry your kid got molested."

]]> Gitai http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876088 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876088 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 13:03:05 -0800 Comment by Hooty Sapperticker All kids lie themselves black in the face.

]]> Hooty Sapperticker http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876120 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876120 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 13:20:35 -0800 Comment by steve @ K; I think the real lesson here is to never move to a place called Bullitt County.

]]> steve http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876187 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876187 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 13:58:19 -0800 Comment by Katelyn “I didn’t listen to the little things my daughter was telling me,” she said. “That’s because I trusted him.”

No... that's because you're a bad parent.

]]> Katelyn http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876250 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876250 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 14:25:49 -0800 Comment by Tlazolteotl These days, who would allow their kids to be alone with an adult...and especially ignore the signs they are trying to give you that something is wrong? Double bad on mom. Call CPS.

]]> Tlazolteotl http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876278 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876278 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 14:38:39 -0800 Comment by infrequent blame the mom? we have no clue. you cannot blame parents who send their kids to school, can you?

]]> infrequent http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876339 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876339 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 15:05:11 -0800 Comment by Tlazolteotl Infrequent, if it is the school's policy for adults to be alone unsupervised with children, I would change schools. Just as I would object when any other institution where kids are around doesn't have a policy of supervising adults when they are around other people's children. Stopping abuse within families is hard, but preventing it in schools, churches, camps, doctor's offices, and what have you, should be a lot easier.

]]> Tlazolteotl http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876444 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876444 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:13:15 -0800 Comment by infrequent i think that parents, teachers, school admin, etc., should do all they can to protect those they are entrusted with, of course. it's a shame that you cannot trust, but really you can't just trust that it is begin done.

but often abuse occurs despite the best intentions. just because abuse occurs doesn't mean the parent is at fault. that's all i'm getting at. maybe this was a bad parent, but maybe this was so unexpected that it is of no reflection on the parent at all. she is probably so grief stricken that she is blaming herself. who knows?

we only can be as careful as we can. and then hope that teachers don't break the rules (if they are willing to abuse a child then they are probably willing to be alone with your child). not just teachers, but uncles, coaches, rides home, etc...

it's sad.

]]> infrequent http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876524 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876524 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:52:56 -0800 Comment by yu "Mom, that pervy fucker Clayton copped a feel"

“I didn’t listen to the little things my daughter was telling me,” she said. “That’s because I trusted him.”

]]> yu http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876719 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876719 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 19:36:11 -0800 Comment by geoffrey @10 yeah, if it was that she's a bad parent. if it was, "but i don't want to go to youth group tonight..." then maybe not. in hindsight, the latter can seem like a warning sign.

]]> geoffrey http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876777 http://slog.thestranger.com/2007/12/youth_pastor_watch_14#c876777 Religion Mon, 17 Dec 2007 20:44:25 -0800