Savage Love Savage Love Letter of the Day
posted by August 13 at 15:38 PMon
I’m an 18 year bisexual writing in response to your column on the “war” on teen sex. As the son of a social worker and a psychologist, let me give you the best advice I can: Stop fighting a losing battle. I can understand every parent’s concern about the matter. No one wants to be the mother/father of the pregnant homecoming queen and I know that STDs are a serious issue for everyone. No kid wants to be HIV positive, trust me on that one.
Do you really want teens to stop doing it? Sex is a beautiful experience and to deny us that is criminal. And telling us not to do it isn’t helping. One of the major components of teen psychology is the desire to define themselves, to discover who they are. This tends to result in us rejecting the advice of our elders and most authority figures and leaving judgment to ourselves. We want to experiment and make choices in a world where we believe we have a safety net (IE family and other providers) and will not yet face the consequences of an adult reality.
You mention putting castration chemicals in our foods: I personally find that sick and twisted on your part. What if the government, by the same token mentioned in your response, decided to stop gay sex in general by the same means? Not so fun now, is it?
Listen, teens having been doing it for centuries, it’s in our nature. If you’re worry is the consequences of a bad night, stop preaching “no” and teach the choir a new tune. Sing us a song of condom use and birth control. Tell us not to use any dangerous hormonal drugs or other stimulants during sex (for Health class, I had to lecture about the side effects of amyl nitrate. That changed a lot of minds.) But if you want us to stop altogether still, then you’re going to have to mouth the sweet melody of masturbation. Still gets the vibes across without any cost.
Yes, our reckless actions can sometimes lead to disaster. But we learn by what you teach, or contrariwise, what you don’t teach us. We aren’t all idiots, Mr. Savage. We’ve just gotten our lessons out of the wrong textbook. Maybe your generation can make a difference and teach us the right way.
Boy Rebelling Against Tyrannical Sex-stoppers
Damn. Pushing condoms and birth control and letting teens make their own choices—man, why didn’t I think of that! Thank goodness the 18 year-old bisexual child of a social worker and psychologist was there to set me straight. Because now that you mention it, stopping teen sex by dosing Doritos, Mountain Dew, lip gloss, and Axe body spray with chemical castration drugs does seem like an extreme measure.
What was I thinking! Thanks for writing, BRATS!