Homo Email of the Day
posted by August 28 at 18:00 PM
onWell, this email made my day, at any rate…
Dan—I just saw your appearance on CNN. Thank you, thank you, thank you for lending a voice of reason to this ridiculous debate about Larry Craig. It’s ridiculous because none of the media outlets have had a true gay point of view (i.e., someone who is out, open and proud). You articulated (very well, I might add)—despite the constant interruptions from the host—that this is not a “gay” issue because people who identify as gay live openly and honestly and (usually) are not looking for a quick hand job in the toilet. Rather, the issue with Senator Craig is a matter of hypocrisy pure and simple. I have been screaming this (and other expletives) at the TV since the story broke.BTW, I also loved the fact that you pointed out how CNN ran footage of children playing in a park for nothing other than the momentary, sensationalistic image that children everywhere are in peril because of the rampant homosexuality taking place in every public bathroom in America. What bullshit.
Thanks and keep it up,Chris Privette
Thanks for the nice note, Chris. When I was on CNN tonight I wanted to say for the record—ran out of time—that some openly gay men do frequent skeezy toilets looking for anonymous sex. (Hey there, George Michael.) Not because they have to, like a Larry Craig, but because they want to—for the sport of it, the risk, the thrills, the head. But these gay men are, by my scientifically sound estimation, a very small percentage of the men getting it on in toilets. The overwhelming majority of men cruising toilets—in the US, anyway (the UK is a different story)—are desperate, pathetic closet cases.
There are out and proud gay men that idealize the kind of bathroom antics that Sen. Craig pleaded guilty to and is currently on probation for. Some gay men are nostalgic for the days when parks, toilets, and bathhouses were all we had.
But it would seem that openly gay men who cruise public toilets are, well, better at it—or better at getting away with it. Because whenever you read about a bust at a public sex venue it’s only straight-identified closet cases that were rounded up, carted off, and ruined.
UPDATE: I was, of course, invited on CNN to discuss this issue because I am the—that’s “the,” not “an”—official spokesperson for all gay and lesbian people everywhere. Who appointed me? Melissa Ethridge, Andrew Sullivan, and Rip Torn Charles Nelson Reilly.
Comments
When I was living in Australia hitting the toilets at certain beaches was as Ozzie as throwing shrimp on the barbie. Certain beaches for straight hookups, certain beaches for gay hookups.
I wasn't one to hook up in toilets but I did meet a lot of friends in a semi rural part of Oz that way hanging on the beach. It was simply part of the fabric of that society.
No, Dan. You are not the official spokesperson for me. Adrian! is. You, not so much. Just wanted to clear that up.
Dan, for those of us who missed your cnn thing, can you post a link to it?
Cruising for gay sex in public toilets is called "cottaging" in England. Just thought you'd like to know.
rip torn? don't you mean rip taylor?? (i can see how you can get them mixed up--if you rip something, it's torn, so to have it mended, you take it to a taylor.)
first thing he says at his press conference is "thanks for coming out."
HA!
Which CNN show? And do we residents of the West Coast still have a chance to catch it with the time delay?
Where's the embedded clip?
wait rip torn is gay, thats freaking awesome
I'd love to see the video clip. Any chance of getting a youtube link?
Another thing...
When he plead guilty, "He also was required to stipulate in the statement that he would 'make no claim that I am innocent of the charge to which I am entering a plea of guilty,' the document said."
So he's already breaking some law perhaps by flapping his mouth that he "did nothing wrong"....ALL.OVER.THE.PLACE.
(quote from CNN: http://www.cnn.com/2007/POLITICS/08/28/craig.arrest/index.html)
Both quotes taken from CNN (#11)
What does Janus Shaw Crouse have to say about this?!
Wait! I missed this. Of course, I don't get CNN b/c we get the cheap cable. And I was having dinner (and drinking) at my gay neighbors' home. Where's the clip?
How come they never interview Jim Nabors?
Why the random diss of British homosexualists?
I don't give a shit if Craig is gay or not. Whatever he thinks about his sexual orientation is irrelevant. He's an arrogant basher who intentionally stood in the way of progress for LGBT (and other) rights so he could feather his political nest.
However, what I do care about is whether at the time of his travel to/from/through the MSP airport, was he on official travel? In other words, was he arrested while on the taxpayer's dime? Someone should find out and pass it along to the Senate Ethics Committee.
Most US Senators travel at government expense (with myriad rules governing such travel, from my days working there for another R Senator). If he was, this tax cut crusading Republican senator is even more of a hypocrite.
While it is deeply funny that this guy is so deep in the hole that he dug for himself, the thing that amazes me is that no-one has mentioned the rather obvious point that he hasn't actually done anything other than sit in a toilet stall and tap his foot. He wasn't caught dick in mouth, or whatever. He was arrested for tapping his foot.
Now I will happily admit that he is more than probably guilty of the crime he plead guilty to, but at the arrest stage he hadn't actually done anything... except think. Which is pretty crap for a country which prides itself on its freedoms.
@18
Much agreed Alex
I'm so sorry I missed the CNN thang. I've been crowing about this and Haggard all day, to anyone who would listen...
Dan, I really enjoy the idea of you being 'the' spokesman for us deviants.
@ 18,
That makes the whole thing even funnier. He plead guilty to trying to engage in lewd behavior all because of tapping his foot.
Well, actually, let's not forget peeping at the undercover cop for a couple of minutes through the gaps in the stall walls...
@18 - I also agree. As fucked up as it is that he's saying "I'm not gay" instead of saying "I don't suck cock in public restrooms", it is even more fucked up that taxpayer dollars are being spent on cops sitting around in mens' rooms waiting to be propositioned. For a cop, what do you have to do to get stuck on that detail?
For the record, Minneapolis' violent crime rate is double the national average (4,517 incidents for a population of 378,602 in 2003). You'd think the pigs would have other priorities.
Rip Torn appointed you? Wow, Rip Taylor must be pissed. Hope he doesn't use his acid-laced confetti on you.
dan, i think it is THE official spokesperson for all gays and lesbians. all caps.
i am sorry i missed seeing you on the tube, i was in bellevue shooting a 9 mm glock. not kidding. anyway, you are remiss in not adding the ghost of paul lynde to your list of Gays That Made You Famous, darling.
Enjoy that lofty title of 'Spokesperson of the Gays' while it lasts, Dan. They're gonna strip it from you the moment you proposition someone with a vagina.
youtube of dan's appearance?
I searched CNN and youtube but found no clip of this, though this was pretty cool from 2006. I guess it also explains the series of 'Chlidren need a mother and a father'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4DWILX-Xp4
my favorite parts are the 2 minutes of peeping through the door and imagining a CNN reenactment with commentary of the senators left hand making the movement toward the cop under the senators right wall (the cops left wall). The latter is a very awkward position if you are just doing your business and leaves one to wonder about the senators right hand. As for the placement of cops in airport bathrooms, given the previous war on drugs and the current overhyped war on terror, airport bathrooms would not be a good place to start anything. Add to it, that there had apparently been complaints about sex in the stalls, then of course there were cops in the toilets. where is that cnn clip?
OF course --- all the neo conservatives smart pants in the gay community are missing the point ...
The man did nothing illegal. Next, it is YOU.
Are we to now concede we have no right to cruise, to use whatever signal we wish to improvise to say I am interested, are you?
THE COP NEVER MENTIONS DENIAL OF INTEREST - And no mention of the cop coming on or responding in some signal or another - not interested would have been fine.
This is old fashioned entrapment by any take. Here in Seattle, yes, Seattle these stings have happened en mass several times, read SGN accounts a decade ago about Woodland part, and hundreds of gay men arrested for nothing more than interest in a cute undercover cop rubbing his crotch. THEN, they were busted and charged with a felony.
Under great pressure from the gay community, and the Municipal Court Judges, who refused to try the cases - the vice cop sting/entrapment practices of that era abated.
Rumors are of those stings still going on from time to time.
How about arrests of women, when a guy, the undercover cop motions to them to come sit next at a bar... she does come over, sits - and - WHAM, busted, possible sexual contact in the future.
The Senator is a mental case, will most likely kill himself soon - his politics are horrid - but - for gods sake, get some perspective about the police scam in play here ... and how YOU might face a felony under the same game ... at Volunteer Park, Woodland Part ...or ... or... Cal Anderson.
Beware Stranger staff, seems there is a horn-dog or two working there that likes that park, across the street from the Stranger digs ... the bait is a very cute guy rubbing his crotch, and not your intern.
@23: Stuck? I'd volunteer.
I agree with #10 and #27, where can we get video of the CNN clip?
I've searched CNN high and low and I can't find the video. You tube is a bust also. #11's link isn't working... someone has to have a clip of this; help us out!
Am I the only one who thinks the evidence in this case is kind of thin? Read the description of what the officer reported. There was no sex, no offer of sex, no public exposure. Craig blocked the toilet door with his luggage - big deal. Ever try to use an airport stall? That's the only place to put your luggage. He tapped his foot - again, big deal. Etc.
In the old days (as recently as a month or two ago), political sex scandals came with better evidence, like an offer of money for sex, explicit instant messages, showing up in a hooker's phone list, a parade of women claiming inappropriate conduct, etc.
It's easy to pile on a dislikable political figure, but some basic fairness is in order.
foot tapping - finger signals
arrested
cruising - horror of horrors
some of you people are not thinking well
this could be you or someone you know
called entrapment - I bet the cop responded in some way - did not say go away
he, dickhound senator, is a gross hypocrite, political dead duck ? -sad guy
most likely fears ex - communication as well
he will run again and be elected, after all, it is idaho
I thought John Aravosis was CNN's go-to guy on gay issues. You must be the gay SEX go-to guy.
Well, Angel, it could also be that Aravosis is out of the country and Andrew Sullivan is on his honeymoon (or something like that)...so Dan is next in line.
Hopefully he will fare better than Deborah Norville and instead become the new gay Katie Couric. I'd much rather see him on CNN than Aravosis or Sullivan.
Entrapment?
For sure.
But, I'd wager this was not Craig's first tearoom adventure.
It will only take one participant from a previous session to self-disclose his and Craig's dalliance, and the whole thing, a la Haggard, will end in a trip to 'recovery'.
Oh, that's right, John's in Greece exploring his roots or something like that. I agree. I would like to see the video. I listen to the "Lovecast" every week, and I'm getting to like Dan's voice.
@ 29: slate already has the reenactment up! http://www.slatev.com/
No thanks to Dan (who could at least have told us when he was on, or who the host was, or anything), here's the transcript.
I saw the clip of Craig's press conference yesterday. Oh lordy. What a sad and scary man. And his poor wife, looking confused and distraught, right by his side, but with big sunblockers on so you couldn't see how red her eyes were. Tragic for her, but he deserves every bit of suffering that comes to him.
On a more positive note, maybe he, Haggard, and Foley can put together a drag act and take it to Provincetown.
Damn right it's entrapment but that's not the point. Larry Craig is right. He did nothing wrong in that bathroom. The wrong is being committed by Craig saying one thing and doing another. The wrong is being committed by the people of Idaho who judge the quality of their elected officials by their sexual orientation. The wrong is being committed by the press who are focusing on whether he is gay instead of calling out the legislatures of this country for treating homosexuality as a crime in and of itself.
That's why this story is so important. Maybe someone out there in power will figure out that there is something wrong with the whole scenario.
I just want to say that this most recent outing of a closeted official, who votes against gay rights while patronizing the sleeziest of gay sex venues, only brings to the surface the issue of what happens when people are not allowed to be who they are publicly. When denied the opportunity to live our lives openly and without shame for who we are, this is what happens.
Sadly, many elected officials - including a most recent gubernatorial candidate here in Washington State - pay hustlers for sex, cruise the parks at night and hide their sexuality from their wives. When I was a teen here in Seattle, the Republican "family man" I am referring to picked me up on the street, took me to the YWCA and had sex with me and paid me $40. When I fell asleep, he and the $40 disappeared. Now he wants to be Governor, and runs as a conserviative!!?
I think the answer is that Homosexuality needs to not be villified in the media anymore as some kind of perversion, or immoral state of being. The actions of these sleezeballs has less to do with their sexuality, than their shifty self-serving nature to decieve others for their own gain and at a great cost to everyone else.
Re: entrapment. It's not entrapment when some creep stares through the crack of a bathroom stall. To me, that fits the description of "lewd misconduct." Not that the cops don't have better things to do, but still. I wouldn't want my son to have to put up with some creep hanging out at a public (park, airport) bathroom and staring through the stall crack. Would you? Ugh. And if it becomes rampant, how to put a stop to it?
A friend sent me this:
"Why are plains-clothes cops posted in airport bathrooms to arrest men who "solicit sex"? Are there plain-clothes cops in the airport cocktail lounges arresting heterosexual couples if one of them taps the other's leg, with the other's consent?
Is the cop there to protect unwilling men from being annoyed? Or to protect an unwilling public from being put in the position of witnessing a full sexual encounter? Those purposes might well be OK - especially if plain-clothes cops are stationed in the cocktail lounges for the same purpose in regard to heterosexual annoyance -- but then the cop should be protecting real complainants, not becoming the complainant himself."
As for the entrapment/Craig discussions, my first thought is... if this was truly entrapment, why didn't Larry Craig use this as an excuse immediately?
When a person propositions another in an airport bar there isn't the assumption the sex act will be carried out right there at the bar in front of everyone. I seriously doubt that the Senator was trying to entice the nice policeman back to his hotel room - the expectation was of sex right there in public, which is illegal, and rightly so. This isn't entrapment in any way shape or form.
@47 Because claiming entrapment would mean he interacted with the cop and agreed to something the cop could charge him with.
He's claiming it was all a terrible misunderstanding.
This is not entrapment. If the officer had initially solicited Craig (looked through the crack in his stall), that would have been entrapment.
It completely grosses me out that you can get arrested for this, though. No lewd act was committed, even if Craig's intentions (to have a fun, lewd time) were obvious. It just doesn't seem very, like, freedom-y that I can't tap your foot in a bathroom stall, giving you the opportunity to either give me your room number or punch my lights out, depending on your mood.
And good point @49. He's fully fucked either way.
Dan, did you get a Dirty Sanchez?
Why didn't Anderson Cooper probe you?
Re Entrapment: Nu uh.
Entrapment happens when a police officer or someone working for law enforcement thinks up a criminal scheme (i.e., a drug deal, lewd conduct in a public place, etc.) and then lures or induces the soon-to-be defendant into committing the crime that the defendant otherwise (i.e., without the luring/inducement) never would have intented to commit.
No entrapment occured here. The undercover officer did not lure Sen. Craig into staring at him through the crack between the stall and the door. The officer did not induce Sen. Craig to stick his foot in the stall next to him.
Minnestota charged Sen. Craig with
1. Interference with Privacy, which is defined as, among other things, "surreptitiously gazing, or peeping into ... [a] place where a reasonable person would have an expectation of privacy and has exposed or likely to expose their [sic] intimate parts ... or the clothing covering the immediate area of the intimate parts and doing so with the intent to intrude or interfere with the privacy of the occupant[.]" Minn. Stat. Sec. 609.746.
and
2. Disorderly Conduct, defined as "engaging in offensive, obscene ... conduct ... in a public or private place, knowing or having reasonable grounds to know that it will, or will tend to, alarm anger or disturb others[.]" Minn. Stat. Sec. 609.72.
Sen. Craig pleaded guilty to the Disorderly Conduct charge. So even if the foot-taping and hand-swiping was a bit thin for a "lewd conduct" charge, that is not what Minnesota accused him of nor is it what he pleaded guilty to. Instead, it sounds like the charges and his guilty plea matched his conduct (i.e., peeping in at the officer, sticking his foot and swiping his hand in the stall next to him).
@50,
I still say he should have been arrested for being a peepy. Everyone deserves to take a dump in peace.
The other night I saw Dan on that sex show with that horny old lady. He was fabulous!
sure, it's not entrapment (that we can tell).
but i'm with most here... busting people on the way to a crime doesn't seem like a good idea. maybe wait until they commit the crime?
reading the charges, it seems like they were fair if the police officer's testimony is accurate.
Yes, and if they weren't fair then Sen. Craig should have challenged them in court. He chose to admit guilt instead, and now he's trying to take it back.
I say let him withdraw his guilty plea. Then put him on the stand and let him dig his own grave. Now that's justice.
I'm glad to see you changed "Rip Torn" to "Charles Nelson Reilly". That was my first thought on seeing the names, in fact -- "where's Charles?" My second thought was "no, Paul Lynde".
Here's the video of the interview!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTF-ibYPlRI&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fblogtown%2Eportlandmercury%2Ecom%2F2007%2F08%2Fcnn%5Finterviews%5Fsavage%5Fon%5Fbathr%2Ephp
On a different subject, I'd like to ask Dan Savage his reaction to the unfortunate choice of words Jerry Lewis made during hour 18 of his annual Labor Day Telethon. Mr. Lewis has apologized, and acknowledged their inappropriate nature, and I think most people could concede the point that he was tired, and perhaps had had a few cocktails, and wasn't thinking as clearly as he might. Certainly he was attempting to be funny extemporaneously, and that, in my experience, is fraught with potential for foot-in-mouth disease.
But I'm curious about your reaction, Dan...even though you, yourself, are every bit as straight as Larry Craig. What's your "wide stance" on using the other "f" word on live TV?
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