Life The Mindfuck of Male Pregnancy
posted by July 17 at 14:22 PMon
The most recent Stranger is graced by a feature by Jen Graves, which is primarily about the prospect of male pregnancy (it’s not science fiction) but branches out into some amazing supplementary territory, touching on the mindfuck of miscarriage, infant mortality, and humankind’s klutziness in dealing with both.
But mostly it’s about dudes carrying babies to term inside their hairy dude bodies, and all my follow-up rumination on the piece centers on the freaky implications of making pregnancy a cross-gender option.
Lesbian couples making a family with donated sperm have been having this discussion for years: Who’s gonna carry this thing? Who gets to get fat and eat whatever they want and pee all the time and vomit in the mornings and stink in weird new ways, all over? Which partner gets to keep her (or his) basic shape? And who gets the ineffable experience of being a (birth) mother?
(Tellingly, one of the quoted responses to these questions in Jen’s piece is from a gay guy who can’t imagine willingly allowing himself or anyone he’s romantically involved with to get all fat with child. Obvious Plan B: Adopt and stay pretty.)
Anyway, if you haven’t read the piece yet, do it now.