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uh... he looks good for 52. not that that is the point of this slog, or that good looks = happiness. of course. you know.

Posted by infrequent | July 25, 2007 10:56 AM

Yeah, he has some issues. Me? I blame my being a 36 year old elderly shut in drinking boxed wine on the weekends on too much Stephanie Miller (1090 AM 6 am to 9 am!). I just need to get a dog to french kiss and I am set.

Seriously, I like being single and news flash: The 42 year old cut off??!! I know some SUPER HOT 42 year old gay guys in Seattle I would totally do! We make choices and no matter what he may say, he chose to be single and bitter. Some choose to be single and happy about it!

Posted by Cato the Younger Younger | July 25, 2007 11:00 AM

Someone forgot to take his sense-of-humor pills this morning. That line about lighting their cigarettes off him? That's hilarious. I'll bet he stole it from Quentin Crisp.

Or maybe you're just too American to get irony. Most Americans are.

But I'm certain that this is one of those posts you're going to regret once you turn 50 (in 2023, right?) and someone throws it back in your face after you emit a similar rant.

Posted by Fnarf | July 25, 2007 11:01 AM

You know Dan, he has a point when you consider this day in age. It doesn't make it right, and it shouldn't call all gay parents to think twice about showing up to their child's whatever event at school. However, we must remember how cruel children are. We should also consider how far down the line we are from being completely accepted. Sure kids will always pop jokes about your gays parents, but right now, it's way worse than it will be in 10 years. Once again, I'm not saying he's right in the sense that gay's should not adopt. Nor am I saying gays should not go to their child's school events and/or any event for that matter. I'm saying he has a point.

Just last night I dragged my husband to a screening of Superbad. What appeared to be a group of High School kids were mocking us while his hand was on my thigh. It ended until the end of the movie, when they were perceiving the depiction of the two main characters close friendship as Brokeback Mountain 2 out loud. I'm good at ignoring that shit now, but a child is not. Though things will never get better if we do not keep coming out and showing the world that we're here to stay, things will be moving slowly @ school with all of the immature little pieces of shit that pride themselves in picking on others instead of, oh, learning. Just sayin'.

Then again I wouldn't want my kid hanging around those type of kids anyway. So...I dunno. I'm not really one to talk since I'll never have kids. And hate kids. And stuff.

Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 11:04 AM

Fnarf, he's amusing. I'll give him that. He's bitter, bitter, bitter as well.

Mr. Poe: Yes, homophobia is a real problem, and no gay person who adopts is blithe about it. It's something we've already had to confront. But homophobia is the problem, not the gay parents. Would you advise African Americans to refrain from parenting to spare their kids from racism? Or to have only boys to spare your kids from sexism?

We make choices to shield DJ from the worst crap -- send him to a school with lots of kids who have same-sex parents; don't live in Spokane or Alabama, etc. -- but he will certainly have to wade through some crap. But who doesn't?

Posted by Dan Savage | July 25, 2007 11:08 AM

Do you really think Rupert Everett is a talented actor? Or are you just saying that to be polite?

What amazing performance did Mr. Everett deliver to you? The Next Best Thing? My Best Friend's Wedding? One of his boring period pieces?

Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 11:10 AM

Dan, of course I would not. Not like either of those issues are as hot and heavy as homosexuality is right now, I understand that they once were. Sure, they both still exist. Once again, all I was saying was I understand his point. It doesn't mean I agree with it.

Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 11:13 AM

DJ is lucky to have highly aware parents. But don't you think that as gay parenting becomes more common, and more accepted, the child-as-accessory or child-as-divine-right will become more common as well. Never underestimate people's stupidity.

Posted by It's Mark Mitchell | July 25, 2007 11:14 AM

I left out a question mark up there...

Posted by It's Mark Mitchell | July 25, 2007 11:15 AM

Sounds like dry British humor to me, and the sarcastic wit of someone who really has no affinity for children.

But Rupert Everett can't find any tail? That's a shame because he is one fine-ass 42 year old.

Posted by JessB | July 25, 2007 11:26 AM

@8--I think the cost of having children (adoption, surrogacy, etc) will keep folks from acquiring kids as vain accessories for many LGBT people. But for some people there will be that inclination. Heck, if it's that way for some straight people. .

Posted by Michigan Matt | July 25, 2007 11:31 AM

I think the Stranger fails to understand humor. Or at least humour.

You know, Rupert's English. He speaks English. He uses wit.

Reading the words just as they are misses something in the translation.

Posted by Will in Seattle | July 25, 2007 11:39 AM

Yep, I think he was being witty. The first one comment is obviously a joke, and I'm guessing the second one was too.

Posted by Damien | July 25, 2007 11:54 AM

Yep, I think he was being witty. The first comment is obviously a joke, and I'm guessing the second one was too.

Posted by Damien | July 25, 2007 11:54 AM

I believe he was joking. Of course, it's supposed to be no laughing matter, but still.

Plus, I think Rupert Everett has been out much longer than most actors and has been through the ringer in terms of his career. He seems a bit world-weary.

Plus, he's right about age-ism. Women in Hollywood get the same thing. There was even an article in Parade recently that questioned whether Catherine Zeta-Jones could plausibly play a love interest considering her advanced age. She's 37.

Obviously, the ageism that affects actors professionally affects them personally as well.

Posted by la la la | July 25, 2007 12:03 PM

It’s possible that he was joking or misquoted by Arizona Central (whatever the hell that is) since they were quoting an English paper out of context. He said that he doesn’t want to have kids because he’d be a terrible father. Wouldn’t this world be an infinitely better place if all similar, awful potential parents came to the same realization?

As for lamenting being single, let’s see… he’s rich, fantastic looking, reasonably smart and internationally famous. Gee, yah think maybe it’s him???

There are tons of hot daddies at my gym (Mr. Poe would be in heaven), and the whole blaming ageism thing is such BS.

Posted by Orginal Andrew | July 25, 2007 12:10 PM

He doesn't want to be a gay parent, which is a refreshing change of pace, and expressed this in a very funny way. It was said in a way intentionally meant to take the piss out of gay parents, who often come across as defensive, overly-earnest, and humorless. Such as in your response.

His book on the fashion industry was really fun, too.

Posted by Boomer in NYC | July 25, 2007 12:28 PM

I'm gay and do not want kids either(I actually rather hate the little creatures) but Rupert is sounding like a old worn out drag queen sitting on her stool at CC's on a Saturday night near closing time. And as much as many gay parents do sound like stick up the butt liberals (like most of Seattle BTW) they do have every right to be defensive; in the real world they have to be.

Posted by Cato the Younger Younger | July 25, 2007 12:34 PM

Original Andrew, what gym?!?! Please do not confuse 'daddies' with older men in general. I like them to be slightly young (mid to late 40's) but with premature or natural gray hair (depending on age). They must look like Anderson Cooper, or be slightly just as handsome. Also, they must golf and be a capitalist piece of shit that I may hate. That way I don't have to worry about giving a shit when the relationship gets rough.


Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 1:10 PM

No. I'm kidding. I'm married. Bwananan.

Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 1:10 PM

We're voting for the caustic bile spewing bitch, that's why he can't get any.... Can everyone see us playing the world's smallest violin for this loser?

Posted by 2lesmoms | July 25, 2007 2:08 PM

Well I have no idea about raising kids other then I wish EVERYONE would do a better job of it.
As far as ageism goes Dan, it is alive and well in the "gay community" and your point of view on it is at best irrelevant (not being single) and at worst uninformed. I would bet that you'd feel a little more sympathetic to his point of view (joke or not)if you were single and you would be best served to check-in with some of your single, over 35 and gay friends for a reality check.
Im 38 and have an active dating life only because I've always been attracted to men older then me, however if I wanted to date anyone younger I would be outta luck.
The point has been brought home to me by my other single friend(s) who are trying to date and have shown me by changing (lying) about their age on-line, how their age makes a drastic difference to how they are treated in chat rooms, and how many responses they get to their personal ads on-line and nothing to do with any other part of their respective bios such as pics, stats,listed hobbies etc.
Others can ring in about how it goes in the bars as I don't attend but have been told the same goes for there as well.

Posted by drone5969 | July 25, 2007 2:16 PM

“Oh God, I could never do that to a child. Can you imagine what it would be like, having your two dads coming to school speech days? And hearing those awful queeny rows while you are trying to get to sleep?”

Dan! Where in that quote does he equate straight parenting of any sort to gay parenting? The man was obviously exercising his wit - traditionally dry Brit wit, admittedly - when he said that. Shame on you for taking his comments out of context. I, for one, am getting tired of being perceived as the cause of homophobia simply by virtue of being a straight parent.

For the record, I've never seen a same-sex couple have a "queeny" bicker in front of their children. I have, however, seen and heard plenty of straights act like utter lunatics in front of the children, the principal, teachers, the public and every deity worshiped by humankind. It's embarrassing, truly.

Posted by OddlyEnough | July 25, 2007 2:27 PM

I'm sure Rupert Everett has no problem getting laid, as he is surely one of the better looking men of any orientation or age in Western Europe. I think the tone of his faux-rant was inspired by one too many days on the set with an Oscar Wilde script in hand.

Posted by Lauren | July 25, 2007 2:59 PM

I agree with everything you said except him being a gifted actor.

Posted by Gitai | July 25, 2007 3:18 PM

Young guys that don't want to sleep with you does not equal "ageism," or age discrimination. Please. That's just whining. Most of the guys that complain about young guys not wanting to sleep with them probably didn't want to sleep with older guys when they themselves were young.

Imagine a straight guy in his late 30s or early 40s complaining that girls in their early 20s that didn't want to sleep with him were discriminating against him, were ageist, were doing real harm to the "straight community," etc. You would laugh in his fool face.

Posted by Dan Savage | July 25, 2007 3:20 PM

Wow Dan, sensitive much?

As has been stated, R.E. was likely trying to be witty and likely pictured some of his more cunty friends acting as parents. I'm sure he didn't envision the responsible, caring homos like you who drive their kids to soccer practice or make Rice Krispy treats.

I'm sure he's had a rough life, what homo hasn't, especially one who has previously worked as a rentboy to support himself as a lad. But just because he is gay (or bi) doesn't mean he has to appreciate the culture. Dan, I'm sure you actively separate yourself on the daily basis from the more self-destructive, or merely annoying aspects of gay culture. I'm sure ol' R.E. was doing the same.

Posted by Krizpie Kreme | July 25, 2007 3:42 PM

Is it that hard for people to understand that certain people are attracted to certain people? Why blame anything on your age. If you handle your figure correctly, you'll have a better chance of scoring that hot ass you want. If you can't, it isn't hard to understand that maybe that individual simply isn't attracted to you. Duh. Blaming it on anything else is merely the act of trying to convince yourself that you're a stud, or hide the embarrassment of rejection.

When I was on the prowl for a hot daddy, my biggest dilemma was convincing them that I actually thought they were sexy. What is it with older guys and their age? Stop acting like my goddamn mother.

Posted by Mr. Poe | July 25, 2007 3:45 PM

The whole twink/daddy dichotomy is on the way out, anyways (or should be). Guys may get grey, but they also get 'rugged' (woof!)... To leave you with a pearl of wisdom from All About Eve:

Margo Channing: Bill's thirty-two. He looks thirty-two. He looked it five years ago, he'll look it twenty years from now. I hate men.

Posted by yerbamatty | July 25, 2007 10:04 PM

Being English and probably not as "smart" as Rupert I get really annoyed that anyone could suggest this is British irony.The guy made very insensitive remarks ( as bad as Bryan Ferry's rattling on about Nazi iconography). If it's hard to get a partner after 48 maybe that's cos he spent all his time clubbing and being a ligger . It isn't any easier for straight 48s. His comments about parenting are disgusting , thank-God he doesn't want any the poor little so amd sos wouldn't be getting any presents .He is a terrific actor , films like "To Kill a King" and "Tolerence" show he is more than just the guy everyone remembers from "My Best Friend's Wedding" puzzle is , wasn't "The Next Best Thing" all about a gay man being a loving parent?

Posted by angie Cox | July 26, 2007 12:43 AM

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