News Children Need a Mom and a Dad
posted by June 26 at 9:30 AMon
I’ve retitled today’s installment of “Every Child Deserves a Mother and a Father” in honor of the Texas judge that threw a gay couple out of her courtroom, crumpling up their petition to have their son’s name changed and tossing it over shoulder, and then telling the couple that “children need a mom and a dad.”
Wrestler Benoit found dead with family
Pro wrestler Chris Benoit canceled a pay-per-view appearance at the “Vengeance” event in Houston because of “personal reasons” a day before he, his wife and their 7-year-old son were found dead in an apparent murder-suicide.
Details of the deaths “are going to prove a little bizarre” when released to the public, Fayette County District Attorney Scott Ballard told the Atlanta Journal-Constitution. Autopsies were scheduled Tuesday by the Georgia Bureau of Investigation in DeKalb County.
Authorities were investigating the deaths at a secluded Fayette County home as a murder-suicide and were not seeking any suspects.
I realize that these posts are upsetting to some—hell, they’re upsetting to me. Stories about children being abused or killed are harder to read when you have children yourself; it’s almost impossible to avoid calling up mental images of your own child suffering, or being abused, or murdered. This realization took me by surprise when my son was 18 months old; sitting in a cafe, reading a newspaper, I read a short item about a couple that abandoned their 18 month-old son in a ravine, where he was torn apart by wild dogs. I couldn’t stifle a loud sob.
But I’m going to keep posting these horrifying stories so long as asshole judges tell gay couples that “children need a mom and a dad,” or asshole presidential candidates tell right-wing bigots that “every child deserves to have a mother and a father,” or asshole religious groups spit out press releases attacking loving same-sex parents.
What ever child needs is a parent or parents that are fit and sane and loving, regardless of their sexual orientations. It’s galling to read the comments of that judge the same day that news breaks of another straight parent taking the life of his wife and child—and there has been no shortage of these stories this week.
Bobby Cutts Jr May Have Killed Jessie Davis in Front of Their Son
Jessie Marie Davis was killed in her Lake Township home the day before her mother reported her missing, according to the complaints charging Bobby L. Cutts Jr. with two counts of murder. That means that the couple’s two year old son may have actually witnessed the murder of his mother Jessie by his father Bobby.
Man accused of killing wife, 3 children held without bond
A suburban Chicago man accused of killing his wife and three children was ordered held without bond Monday, while officials began efforts to have him returned to Illinois to face murder charges.
Christopher Vaughn, 32—wearing an orange jail uniform, handcuffs and leg irons—said nothing during the brief hearing, during which St. Charles County Associate Judge William Lohmar revoked a $1 million cash bond set earlier.
Vaughn was arrested Saturday at a St. Charles funeral home just hours before a memorial service for 34-year-old Kimberly Vaughn and the couple’s children, Abigayle, 12, Cassandra, 11, and Blake, 8. They were found shot to death June 14 in the family’s parked sport utility vehicle.
It’s hard to be assaulted by stories like these on a daily basis—stories about straight parents murdering their children—while at the same time listening to “pro-family” organizations and religious bigots insist that same-sex parents are, by definition, a danger to our children. Most straight people—particularly the kind of straight people inclined to read this here blog—don’t listen to the bigots, or tune ‘em out, and tell gay people we should do the same. You know what? We can’t. So the constant stream of slurs directed at gay parents that so many straight people “tune out” winds up functioning like some sort of dog whistle. It’s loud, it’s shrill, and sometimes it feels like we’re the only ones that can hear it.
If this post upsets you, I apologize—sort of. Just know that I’m upset too and that these posts are meant to be upsetting.