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Monday, March 26, 2007

Today’s Worst Lesbian in the World

posted by on March 26 at 9:33 AM

With apologies to Keith Olbermann…

Meet today’s Worst Lesbian—hell, person—in the world: Sara Wheeler.

Once a proud lesbian, she’s now a pariah in the gay community—arguing that gays don’t have the legal right to adopt children.

Wheeler, 36, and her partner, Missy, decided to start a family together and share the Wheeler last name. In 2000, Sara Wheeler gave birth to a son, Gavin, through artificial insemination. Two years later, they decided Missy Wheeler should adopt the child and legally become his second parent….

Sara and Missy Wheeler had split by July 2004, and Missy was fighting for joint custody of the boy. The two sides do agree about one thing: The case is about a mother’s rights. “Everybody seems to forget we’re not talking about lesbian rights,” Missy Wheeler’s attorney said.“We’re talking about a child who’s been bonded with a mother.”

Sara Wheeler is making the legal argument that, since nothing in Georgia law specifically allowed gay adoption, the adoption should be tossed out.

The case has aroused the ire of gay groups, who say it could set gay rights back a century.

Sara Wheeler defended her decision, saying, “I’m not doing anything else a mother wouldn’t do to fight for her son,” she said. “Some people may think it’s the unthinkable, but if they were put in my shoes, they’d do the same thing.”

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Not to generalize too much, but the lesbian separations/divorces I have been involved with (especially the ones with kids involved) are almost always the nastiest, claws out, drawn out affairs. This doesn't surprise me.

Posted by Dave Coffman | March 26, 2007 9:47 AM

whatta cunt!

Posted by Mike in MO | March 26, 2007 9:56 AM

Wow. What a shortsighted selfish asshole.

Posted by Noink | March 26, 2007 10:12 AM

I thought the worst lesbian in the world was the woman accusing random disabled guys of rape in a plot win back her ex-lover, but then I read this.

Posted by seattle98104 | March 26, 2007 10:36 AM

There was a similar case in California where a lesbian tried to get herself out of child support payments by making a similar argument. Luckily, California's courts/laws are liberal enough that she was essentially told to fuck off.

Posted by keshmeshi | March 26, 2007 10:39 AM

I totally agree with post #2 and was thinking, "what a C U Next Tuesday." Good Gravy.

Posted by Mr. Designer | March 26, 2007 10:46 AM

Yes, well, everyone knows that motherhood is a sacred right and responsibility and that anyone would do whatever a mother is doing that appalls everyone else. Like, for example, when mothers lobby to abolish freedom of speech, or when they flip out about having halal food on the menu at their school or whatever. Any mother would dig your heart out of your chest with their fingers and eat it in front of you if it meant their precious little bundle would be spared from a moment of discomfort. And if you don't understand and appreciate that... well, that's just because you're not a mother.

Posted by John Lilburne | March 26, 2007 10:51 AM

The observant reader will notice that this same paradigm applies to sociopaths.

Posted by John Lilburne | March 26, 2007 10:53 AM

The oh so bitter divorce - what is new?

Dave, you are full of crap. I have seen the most foul and bitter and angry and nit picking divorces in the world --- guess what --- all straight people.

Maybe we will have more major court fight to the death exchanges, eventually on a larger scale, but let's fact it - the flip side of ALL legal marriage in an often bitter divorce.

Not ever going to be my problem.

Will let Dan write the book someday.

Posted by ed dippy | March 26, 2007 11:03 AM

Shows that people will go to any lengths to piss off their partner when they've split up.
And that's where adoption is meant to protect kids: it gives them the right to both their parents, not just the one whose genes they share.

Posted by Griet | March 26, 2007 11:29 AM

Contrary to Sara Wheeler's broad-brushed claims, all mothers placed in her shoes would not necessarily do the same thing. Nor should they.

Some of us know this all-too-well from personal, painful experience.

Frankly, I would like to know more about the third-grader Gavin's feelings in this matter, rather than what Sara wishes. Who is looking after the boy's interests?

Posted by Laurence Ballard | March 26, 2007 11:35 AM

sheesh, 11 is right: kinda late to provide a "replacement mommy" for a seven-yr-old. so this is not about protecting the kid, quite the contrary; it's about eliminating an unwanted person from sara's life, and a wanted one from her son's. that's where the true hypocrisy lies. what a selfish "c u next tuesday," indeed.

Posted by ellarosa | March 26, 2007 12:06 PM

So she wants to be a bitch to her ex and the best way she can figure out how to do it is by hurting the gay community as a whole?

Posted by Shea | March 26, 2007 12:21 PM

The only way justice will be done is if she never gets laid again.

Posted by Gitai | March 26, 2007 12:23 PM

It's reassuring that Wheeler essentially admits there is no basis in ethics or justice for what she is trying to achieve, she's just trying to use the law to get what she wants.

And if she wins, that would be bad, but it would hardly "set gay rights back a century." Bands of cops won't be gratituously raiding gay bars and beating up their patrons if this woman gets this adoption anulled.

Posted by David Wright | March 26, 2007 1:03 PM

Any gay person who decides to go to court to punish their ex-partner and in the process to set a legal precedent for other gay parents that the non-child bearing gay partner does not have parental rights is a completely selfish fucked up piece of shit.

Posted by misty | March 26, 2007 1:10 PM

Yet more evidence that having children turns you into a raving asshole.

Posted by Muther Fluffer | March 26, 2007 1:24 PM

Divorce is a selfish act. Sometimes a warranted selfish act, but a selfish act, none the less. So no need to be surprised that she's not worried about who she hurts in the process.

Posted by monkey | March 26, 2007 1:33 PM

"Today’s Worst Lesbian in the World"
-- wow, I had no idea there was a contest, let alone that prizes were awarded daily.

So she wants to be a bitch to her ex and the best way she can figure out how to do it is by hurting the gay community as a whole?

Well, usually one (or both) of the parents do it through the kids (which may also be happening in this case). The "getting back at the ex" in any way possible is what's going on; innocent bystanders -- be they the children or the gay community -- are just collateral damage. (Not that they can see that: just try to get my divorced mother to admit to it, for example).

Divorce is a selfish act. Sometimes a warranted selfish act, but a selfish act, none the less. So no need to be surprised that she's not worried about who she hurts in the process.


Posted by Joe | March 26, 2007 1:54 PM


Posted by matthew | March 26, 2007 2:35 PM

Ann Coulter is the worst lesbian in the world! Gimme a break!

Posted by Evil is as Evil does | March 26, 2007 3:46 PM

Sara Wheeler gives the idea of a gay family - the love, the support, the normalcy - a big, black eye with this miserly act.

Just more faggots on the fires of ignorances.

Posted by Laurence Ballard | March 26, 2007 4:16 PM

I think there is a grain of truth to the idea that lesbian divorces-with-kids are sometimes nastier than the straight ones, but the legally ambiguous situation is the reason they're so awful, not the fact that two women are involved.

One of the many, many reasons that gay marriage needs to be legal is to provide for gay divorce. Divorce is messy, but splitting up two lives where there are all the entanglements of marriage (joint finances, joint ownership of a house, children) but no legal marriage can be even messier.

Posted by Naomi | March 26, 2007 6:10 PM

Evil is as Evil Does @ 21, no, no, no. Ann Coulter isn't the worst lesbian in the world. Ann Coulter is the worst transsexual in the world!

Posted by wile_e_quixote | March 26, 2007 8:47 PM

The worst lesbian in the world is Lynne Cheney. She not only slept with Dick, but she spawned Mary... Top that.

Posted by jonathan | March 27, 2007 9:44 PM

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