Comments on Bachelorette Parties: Can You Have Your Cock and Eat It Too?

So much theorization! It's no different than bachelor parties, where, contrary to Dan's statement, not just "vulva cake" but actual vulvas frequently get munched, as the traditional stripper has gradually turned into something closer to a prostitute; penetration extra, but sex is definitely taking place. I don't think there's any more complicated explanation (for what are extraordinarily uncomplicated people) than celebrating sex.

I think Fnarf is right - for all the theorizing that so many post-collegiate types do, you'll never go to any bachelor or bachelorette parties where the participants are saying "our actions are the manifestation of [this or that theory about the meaning of life]." That could be because they're free of such overthinking.

I like your second theory, but I think there might be a third theory. Could be all the cocks represent the female version of (or fantasy of) giving up her days of pussy catting around. There's only one more cock she'll ever see now.

It's very, very alarming, and somebody needs to write a thesis on it right away.

The Erotic Bakery up on 45th makes vulva cakes, which taste pretty much like any other cake, including penis cakes. Maybe they'd answer a journalist's (or Ph.D candidate's) questions about relative numbers sold.

As Nora Ephron once said (in reference to the women's self-help health movement of the 70's, but just as valid in this instance) "It almost makes you long for the days when an 'evening with the gals' meant bridge."

When it comes to pastries, I'm asexual. Neither a penis nor a vulva cake (which I have seen, btw, at a particularly raunchy bachelor's party) appeal to me.

OMG! Here's a theory:

The reason why you see the abundance of penis cakes is because they represent a subconcious desire on the part of the attendees to disassociate the penis from the body of the patriarchical oppressor and claim it as a tool of pleasure in a womyn's utopia, where sisterhood is the only form of government and the chore wheel is the only form of legislation.

Who wants to write the thesis? I'll type it up for you! (I only work on lime green IBM selectrics with a Pica wheel)

Heh. That was funny, Catalina.

I've seen the penis cakes (and other things) used both as a humiliation tool and also as a representation of all the cocks she won't have in the future, now that she's tied down. I think it depends upon the the party-goers and the bride to be.

I figure it's just cause they think cocks are funny.

Y'all need to lighten up. Sometimes a cock is just a cock and, last I checked, there's a lot of women who like that sort of thing.

I've been to five bachelor parties in the last ten years and it always seems like the bachelorette parties were more sexualized.

The point of bachelor and bachelorette parties don't signify that the wedding means never getting to fuck someone else again. It really signfies that the guy or girl will never get to just hang with his or her friends as much as they used to.

That's been my experience anyway.

i've always just found the whole cock festooned theme to be real corny.

as a bartender, you're guaranteed a bachelorette group every weekend in the spring and summer. they are a nightmare of shrieking women, penis lollipops (cock sucker. get it? huh?! get it?), and sickly sweet rounds of sex on the beach.

bleh. gimme a day at a spa or a secret tryst with a hot 20-something before the shackles are placed.

Boob cakes. You are completely ignoring Boob Cakes! Where's the equality?!!

I've not seen too many vulva cakes, but the Erotic Bakery in Wallingford must crank out Boob cakes by the truckload.

One of your interns needs to do some research at the Erotic Bakery, stat!

Oh, Kerri. We're in disagreement again. I like to place the shackles and then tryst with a 20-something. I hope we don't come to blows over this too, KH...

Definately theory number 2.
Or theory number 3.
In the past some kingdoms and tribes offer the couple before marriage to the Kings and Queens, and they got to sleep with the couple before wedding in crazy ceremonies ala Nero, or Caligula. Or Cleopatra.
So now it carries on in the symbolism of the Phallic and the Vulva being replaced by a stripper(the queen,and or slave)at the Bachelor party, and the phallic situation at Bachelorette party which is the king/and or slave
getting to bed with the handmaidens and wives.

Her theory is totally flawed. She says that "bachelorette parties are supposed to be about how women are are equal to men now, ... yet in practice they tend to be a rowdy, drunken bout of phallic worship."

Uh, bachelor parties are rowdy, drunken bouts of pussy/tit worship. No different. If anything, it reaffirms the equality of women to men.

"Men at bachelor parties don’t eat vulva cakes. That’s probably because they detect and revolt at the underlying communion-taking of eating symbolic foods."

For fuck's sake. Yes, Amanda, I avoid eating vagina-shaped cake because I'm deeply repulsed by the sharing of a symbolic representation of Woman with male companions.

I once bought one of my friends a vulva cake for his birthday once, as it happens, and not a single person in attendance was repulsed by the prospect of biting into it. Know why? Because, aside from us having no particular repulsion to female genitalia, it was also just a goddamn cake.

You can interpret anything any way you like. I'd say your choice of interpretation says much more about you than about the thing you're interpreting. I think eating a big vulva cake at a bachelor's party sounds like a plenty good idea, cus, as others have said, it's a big sex-themed party. John's theorem of bachelor parties: They are a sex-themed party. Any further reading into it is a personality trait.

An example of ambivalent interpretation: subs go down on doms, cus it's humiliating yadda yadda yadda. But doms can go down on subs, cus it's controlling and active. Both interpretations are equally legitimate, and can be held by the same person at the same time. I mean, I myself don't fall on either side of the spectrum too extremely, but i'm relatively dom and I damn well still go down on people.

With everything in life, but sex especially, it's all in how you look at it.

Aaaand. ahem. Nobody assumes anybody old enough to get married is a virgin. That's just rude.

My next band is going to be called Vulva Cake.

"A bachelor party is about male fear of castration; a bachelorette party is about female anticipation of castration." You sure do make marriage sound like misandry.

dan: stop the presses! we are in agreement!

damn. we'll disagree on everything from the viaduct to local newspapers but, when it comes to naughty behavior, we're on the same filthy page.

and, you said come to blows in a thread about cocks. my hero!

At the store where they sell penis cake molds, they also sell booby cake molds, and booby pasta, lollypops, gummies, etc. She's short-sighted for saying straight guys don't do it too.

The main point I got out of Amanda's article is that at bachelorette parties, female sexuality is treated as a joke. Like "haha i'm getting a 'lap dance' tee hee hee." The penis cake kinda symbolizes this to me. Like, it can't be something you WANT or LIKE because look how silly it is! Let's tease you about all the cock you're going to be getting!

Anyway, bachelorette parties are pretty lame. I prefer a truly equal bachelor/bachelorette party with your big co-ed group of friends, where everyone goes to vegas or wherever to celebrate the end of the couple's single life with a whole lotta debauchery. I feel like this bodes better for the marriage than the traditional segregated parties.

The problem with penis or vulva cakes is you have to cut them up. Yikes! Now there is something to theorize about!

I'm at the point where I roll my eyes at half of what Marcotte writes, especially if the subject is remotely related to economic issues. It's kind of unusual actually, my typical reaction to attacks from right wing blowhards is to rally to the defense of whoever's being attacked. Anyway, this post (Marcotte's, not Dan's) is definitely eye-roll worthy.

I have one more thing I just must say. The whole problem with the idea of bachelor/bachorette parties is that it's symptomatic of the screwed up concept that "marriage" (the real thing - not the legal kind which is actually a civil union) begins with some magic mumbo jumbo performed by a third party. But the mumbo jumbo magic act is simply a recognition ritual that has no real power of its own. Although many people have deluded themselves into believing that it does, it's just a ritual that creates a defining moment to recognize when the "marriage" began. But the truth is if you aren't "married" when you walk into the church (or whatever), you won't be "married" when you walk out 20 mintues or so later after the mumbo jumbo. Real "marriage" doesn't usually have a definate beginning. It kinda sneaks up on you during the course of a successful relationship. So, by the time the bride and groom get to the bachelor/bachelorette parties the night before the ceremony, it's either already too late to say goodbye to the single life or they actually believe their marriage will come from a magician in the morning - and will very likely end up in divorce court. The silly parties only serve to reinforce this idea. I hope gays don't take up this tradition. They're supposed to be pulling us out of this trap, not tumbling in themselves.

Whenever there's explicit cock on display, someone has to log a complaint. Whatever. If the ladies want to throw cock-themed bachelorette parties, I think they are way cool. Fuck the puritans.

God knows we menfolk do worship the kitty, especially at bachelor parties.

You mean the girls don't eat the cakes with their vag dentata?

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