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Thursday, February 15, 2007

Confessions of a Bareback Top

posted by on February 15 at 15:05 PM

I know I’m over two months late to this blog. And I know that Gawker beat me to it. But apropos of this week’s raging Slog comment thread on gay men’s health, I bring you:

Confessions of a Bareback Top.

In which an obviously self-deluded but supposedly HIV-negative gay man in New York manipulates guys into letting him fuck them without a condom (including, allegedly, one Barneys salesman), and then writes about it.

Classy.

(And totally NSFW.)

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1

In his disclaimer I was struck most of all by the words "integrity" and "I am not upfront with barebacking" occupying the same sentence.

Not to mention the oxymoronic following sentence: If you don't like that I don't openly bareback, get a life. (emphasis mine)

This guy is Christmas for Christianists.

Posted by Laurence Ballard | February 15, 2007 3:41 PM
2

What a dick! I looked back in some of the archives and read one about him blindfolding and tying the guy up first. He explains how he has the guy open the condom wrapper, and makes sounds with it to make him think he's actually using it.

Usually everyone has known...so for a second I thought that somehow he would find out and be pissed. But then I remembered that he was tied up and blindfolded - so what the fuck did I care. Even if he did fight - you bet your hole I would have fucked him and delt with the rest later.

Maybe it's just cuz I'm a chick, but that sounds to me like rape. I know he didn't actually do it, but the way he says he'd still fuck him if he fought back...

what a winner. :\

Posted by Faux Show | February 15, 2007 4:12 PM
3

Words fail to describe guys that pull this shit. Face it, these are urban insurgents of a different stripe. Our health departments should be tracking them down and dealing with them in a similar manner...

Posted by Safe Sex Only | February 15, 2007 4:25 PM
4

Wow, what a manipulative prick (figuratively speaking). These people need to be exposed and hopefully this will lead to some opposition to his hypocritical self-righteousness. It's one thing bare-backing with your boyfriend in a monogamous relationship after you reach an informed understanding beforehand, another to hop from bed to bed using half-truths, emotional blackmail, and psychological force to do it with many anonymous partners all while dripping with...hypocrisy.

Posted by Brandon H | February 15, 2007 4:40 PM
5

If you don't like it, don't have sex with him.

Nevermind that it's probably really a fat 50-year old bald guy sitting at home on a computer with nothing better to do than make shit up.

Posted by Get over it | February 15, 2007 5:00 PM
6

That would be great if he wasn't risking spreading disease. From what little i read of his blog, it sounded like even if he found out he was positive, he would still be bare-backing, and from the manipulation he describes, I wouldn't put it past him to lie about his status. This is a lot of assumptions and hear-say and I don't know this guy or anything for sure, nor can I predict the future, but it is a scary and maddening thought to ponder none-the-less, even if it is fiction.

Posted by Brandon H | February 15, 2007 5:30 PM
7

What an asshole!

Posted by Ben in Redmond | February 15, 2007 5:30 PM
8

I also think it sounds... made up. Someone might be fantasizing aloud--ablog?--about the sex they wish they were having, not the sex they are (read: little to none).

Posted by Dan Savage | February 15, 2007 6:14 PM
9

Do we have reason to believe this guy is real? I smell bullshit.

Posted by tsm | February 15, 2007 6:22 PM
10

I'm sorry. Let's call this what it is (assuming it's not made up): murder.

Posted by jonathan | February 15, 2007 7:48 PM
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Whoops. Claims he's HIV-. That just makes him a prick-fuck-asshole who violates the idea that people are ends in themselves, not means. How could I have leapt to the conclusion that he was a killer? (of course, odds are he's not neg for long, so soon he'll be a murderer).

Posted by jonathan | February 15, 2007 7:55 PM
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He's worse than manipulative. How about this passage:

"When he left I felt a little guilty about fucking him raw since he trusted me to only fuck him safe - but I thought about it for a second....felt bad...then realized I was missing Survivor and ran to put it on. Thats the last I thought of it."

Posted by BP | February 15, 2007 9:33 PM
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I think it's fake too. I've been a big, huge whore, and let's face it, about 90% of hookups are non-descript, and it's only once in a long while that random sex is really worth writing home about. No one has fantastic sex every time.

Posted by Gitai | February 15, 2007 10:20 PM
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Oh my G-D! Eli, why can't you just stop with the F-E-A-R? I think we all ought to give this man, our dear anonymous gay brother a big e-hug.

Posted by John | February 15, 2007 11:00 PM
15

Yeah. Now that I'm marginally awake: Smells like fake.

Posted by jonathan | February 16, 2007 4:41 AM
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Hmm, you know what I am going to do? I am going to place some ads on the various websites for BB Sex and get some face shots of the assholes locally who are doing this shit and post them on a website. Someone has to hold these pricks to account. Who is with me??

Posted by Just Me | February 16, 2007 8:56 AM
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JustMe - just because someone has a preference of a certain type of sexual act doesnt mean you can hold a public witch hunt because you dont like it...

Posted by DOoo bee | February 17, 2007 5:04 PM
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"Just Me",
you don't need to place an ad to get face shots. Just go to the sites. Plenty have face shots with their ads.

Have fun with your witch hunt!

Although, how much of a witch hunt is it if the guys are already willingly putting up pictures of their faces along with their ads?

Still...have fun!

Posted by BD | February 19, 2007 4:07 PM

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