Yesterday David Postman said this…

But maybe it has taken so long for the court to rule that the issue of gay marriage is losing steam. A column up on the Governing magazine site says “Gay marriage may soon run out of steam as a political issue in the states.” Marriage is so last year. The big fight now is gay parenting.

Yes, the fight is increasingly about gay parents—as I wrote in the Stranger’s 2006 Queer Issue. But it is a debate that we’re in a much better position to win. Governing writes, “if the choice is seen as being between gay parents and no parents, gay rights advocates may gain the advantage,” and that’s an excellent point. But there’s also this: Gay and lesbian parents, unlike gay and lesbian married couples, already exist in huge numbers all over the country, not just in one blue state. Gay families are a fact on the ground, not a scary hypothetical that the American Taliban can demagogue about quite so easily—not when we’re showing up at White House Easter Egg Rolls and PTA meetings. Gay marriage can be presented as a terrifying “what if?â€�, but gay parents can not.

Same-sex couples are adopting or having children through artificial insemination or surrogacy every day; we may hear less about gay baby boom today than we did back in, oh, 1998, when I adopted, but it hasn’t slowed one bit. If anything it’s picked up pace. Every year for the last four years my family has trekked to Michigan for Gay Family Week in Saugatuck, and there are more same-sex couples there every year—this year I met tons of male couples who had just adopted infants.

Gay parents: We’re here, we’re queer, we’re just as exhausted as straight parents—and if you try and take our kids from us, we’ll kill ya.