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Friday, February 24, 2006

Sex is Boring: Boring, Boring, Boring

Posted by on February 24 at 18:01 PM

First: a comment on Dan’s post I’d like to highlight:

i thought the cover of the stranger was used to feature artists’ works. so… if that’s the intent, and that’s what they did, what are you all bitching to them for? why don’t you bitch at the photographer. here I’ll help you, here’s HER website: http://www.yerinmok.com

Seen in the context of her oeuvre, the cover shot makes perfect, and much less erotic, sense. (Though that phrase suddenly sounds like a euphemism for something dirty: “Dude, I totally saw her in the context of her oeuvre. It was awesome…) She’s got some great photos of nearly empty but oddly evocative rooms, houses on slag heaps, telephone lines over cityscapes, Miranda July, Woodenmustache (for that nasty purveyor of antifeminist, gynophobic bile, BUST magazine), a heartbreaking photo of a woman looking at the ocean, and other great stuff.

Second: I keep hearing/reading people who say the cover is “boring” when they’re trying to be dismissive. But I suspect the Boringistas are trying to express an emotion they don’t have a word foror deny an emotion they’ve got plenty of words for.

Here’s why: I’ve been reading a memoir by Martin Amis that includes several letters he wrote in college (c. 1965), and his younger self keeps using “boring” in completely inappropriate ways:

“It would be so boring if [my clumsiness at Latin] buggered up my Oxford Entrance paper.” (But the Oxford paper is dear to Amis’s younger-self heart.)

“It’s so boring because I’ve never felt quite so ill in all my life.” (Amis was waking up with bizarre, unexplained “fibrous nodules” on his neck which is anything but boring.)

On learning that an important academic letter had not been forwarded promptly by his uncle: “It’s bloody boring because I expressly told him to be very careful because offers must be answered within a week or else they are withdrawn.”

In these cases, I would use the adjectives like awful, disturbing, fucked up, or exasperating. But Amis’s younger-self uses boring.

Remember Sid & Nancy, the 1986 movie about the Sex Pistols with Gary Oldman (and a pre-everything bit part by Courtney Love)? Remember what the Johnny Rotten character said to a young woman who was flirting with him? “Sex is boring. Boring, boring, boring.”

I didn’t believe him. I don’t believe the younger-self Amis. And you Stranger-cover-Boringistas? I don’t believe you either.


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i remain bored. i had checked out her website earlier, and liked some of the work but found myself having the same reaction, or lack of, in general. especially to the other faceless photos. i wanted to like them for their creepiness and reflexive voyeuristic qualities, but ultimately they failed to move me and i experienced them as flat- thus "bored". even though i love the idea of a photographer attempting to create meaning in photos of people, but subtracting their faces, in my opinion, the idea behind them is stronger than the work itself, particularly the cover photo which was, to me, among the least affecting.

so yes, i said i was bored but it's a slog. i hop on and off during work, so like most people, i use shorthand. just like most of the people who admired the cover used shorthand, such lengthy expositions on their love for the cover included: "beautiful" and "i like it" and approval of the gentleman's feet. hardly lengthy analysis of the photo's merits.

as to the rest of her site though, i think her portraiture is really fucking great, which surprised me because i don't often like portraiture.

I'm so fucking tired with how puritanical the (nominal) left is. When, somehow, all hetero sex is degrading to women, guess what happens? You join hands (very platonically, I assume) with the fundamentalist right.

I wasn't alive in the 60s, but I seem to remember it having something to do with the freedom to screw, celebrate and get high. I wouldn't mind that idea coming back -- instead of this prissy shit.

All true enough, Brendan Kiley. English has a totally limited emotional lexicon. Maybe that's why we're so hung up on literature; extensive sensory/narrative lexicon + limited emotional lexicon --> people writing poetry. Just a hypothesis.

I don't "the cover is boring" equals "sex is boring", especially since the cover isn’t erotic. It seems to, in fact, be evoking boredom -- which might mean that the bored experienced the photo most viscerally? Without faces, our primary means of conveying complex emotion, and with their deflated postures, the two people in the photo seem to be the very essence of malaise.

p.s. I once told a Serbian friend that I was bored because I was boring, and she informed me that there is not difference between the words in Serbo-Croation, to be boring is to be bored.

I think different things are happening. In the case of those slogging, I agree with the first comment, it's a slog.
In Amis case, without his context, but within the context of contemporary life, there is something to be said for "boring" and "bored". The level of complaint in social discourse is such that everyone is in a constant state of kvetch. The more miserable you are, or can appear, the more likely you are to find a niche in popular discourse. To that extent, what I read in Amis' comment is a little more meta, he isn't commenting on the fact of his personal fibrous tumors, but on the relentlessness of misery and the inevitability of our being swallowed up by it, both in fact and in the discourse of our times.
But while I think all that is true, I do agree with you that there is a pretense of boredom, which is purveyed as sophistication and that it is for shit.

hmmm, i wonder how much fucking a rock star has to do in order to find sex boring? must be a hell of a lot. but i bet it's possible, even probable that it happened for johnny and others. if i had a neverending supply of a huge variety of women, willing to do a variety of charming sexual favors for me, maybe i'd get bored, too, but i'm a lesbian and will never know for sure.

I am filled with emotion after reading 50+ slog posts, some well written and others not, about boredom.

I am utterly fervent with a sense of ennui.

I also find it funny when people go "I don't care," and then go on at length about why they don't care about something that they obviously DO care about. It's so Seattle.

i don't understand why boredom isn't as legitimate as any other emotional response state.


i also don't understand why not caring about something can't be the result of having considered an arguments merits.

Because you're in denial. Change you name to Denial, plz.

wow gomez. that is stunning analysis in both posts. good thing you came along and made it all so clear.

I have often heard or read British people using the word "boring" in the same manner that Amis uses it. Such as "That man is a total bore" when they really mean "a complete asshole." They seem to have a definition for it that is unfamiliar in American speach.

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